FAQ corner — part 3 —
'frequently asked questions'
on self-actualization and healing issues

Does orgonite work?

It really is no good, people ignoring the notes on my Contact page and keeping on coming to me with such questions! No matter what the substance or device that's being asked about, I make no claim to be an authority on it, nor indeed on anything with which I have no experience — and I find it rather bizarre that people expect me to answer so many questions about things with which I don't involve myself.

Surely, (a) my non-involvement with a reasonably well-known substance or device would suggest that it's likely at the very least in my estimation not to be as beneficial as the methodology that I myself present on this website, and (b) if a person is so uninterested in what's on this site, that he questions me about methods that I don't involve myself with, he is basically a time-waster, because his only intelligent response to what's on this site would be actually to get trying out the methods that I myself give.

If he wants to find out if orgonite 'works', then he can go and find out for himself — after which he may well have cause to come back here to use actually beneficial and safe methods to progressively undo the harm he's done to himself by involving himself with orgonite and indeed the individual(s) who provided him with it.

My most helpful answer to all such people is actually NOT for me to pronounce to them with a categorical opinion about what they're asking about, but to recommend that they take up Helpfulness Testing, as described on this site (i.e., NOT as described anywhere else), and find out for themselves whether the particular substance, object or device would be 'strengthening' or 'weakening' for them personally to use or have around them at the present time.

So, I'm not giving the simple 'yes' or 'no' answer to that question that the questioner is wanting of me because of his unwillingness to genuinely think for himself.

However, in this particular case I will now say what I found for myself, just as a useful pointer — but I give no categorical pronouncement about orgonite in lieu of other people using their own 'grey matter' and finding their own answers.

My own Helpfulness Testing on the stuff has consistently marked it out for me as not just 'weakening' but downright, seriously injurious, being as harmful as the sacred geometry wands that I was using* (albeit their harming one in a slightly different way) and were a major factor in the weakening / disrupting of my non-physical aspects that brought about my near-nemesis at the 'hands' of the garbage, in 2003 — 2007.

Even before I took up Helpfulness Testing in 2007 I always felt strong inner warnings about orgonite or indeed anything to do with purported (but actually illusory) 'orgone energy', and my observation is that belief in the latter and involvement with 'orgonite' goes hand in hand with the involved people carrying certain garbage interferences that make them seriously ungrounded and gullible to a whole mass of belief in actually nonsensically, physically impossible effects of 'orgone' and 'orgonite'.

The garbage-sourced illusory realities that such people carry cause them to observe things very selectively and ignore others, so it seems to them that their 'orgonite' really is having seemingly miraculous beneficial effects, and they consistently fail to make a mental connection between the orgonite and the many adverse things that are happening for them.

I've noticed, too, that such people's garbage interference generally includes an active connection to the 'paranoia' primary archetype, which would distort their outlook in particular extremely unhealthy ways, and make them particularly susceptible to a great range of possible paranoid scenarios that the garbage may cultivate in their mindspace — including scenarios involving various government conspiracies (such as the CIA seeking mind control over people on a global scale), 'aliens' / extra-terrestrials seeking to take us over or/and abducting individuals, and non-physical beings of various descriptions seeking to take us all over and rule us — oh, and so on!

Such people would be particularly prone to having astral realm experiences, in which illusory phenomena, including supposed 'alien' abductions seem compellingly life-like, and would be particularly prone to receiving (and all too often sending out) psychic attacks. For the most part they're also hooked on pseudo-science rather than genuine science in pretty well every aspect of their lives.

So, according to my own observations and inner inquiry, orgonite does 'work', at least for people who are 'open' and 'sensitive', BUT that 'working' isn't at all what's widely believed, and is seriously harmful, with life-wrecking potential, making people particularly open and vulnerable to getting partial walk-ins and getting incorporated into the cacoprotean network.

Do you see any relation between autism / Asperger disorders and schizoid structure? Or are they psychiatric labels too?

The strict answer to the first question is I don't know, because I have too little experience of people with those issues, and to the second, No. — However, naturally there's more to it than that.

For a start I'd actually append to the second answer above but I'd expect that some, perhaps many, doctors / psychiatric workers, in their ignorance and unawareness, would be treating them thus.

To my best understanding, there is indeed a range of usually serious apparently physically-based problems grouped under the general classification of 'autism', and for the most part they do appear to be physically based, even though there may still be underlying non-physical causes (i.e., as with the majority of physical problems other than injury or infection — nutrition problems here generally counting as 'injury').

Regarding the matter of the so-called 'schizoid character structure', although I do have a page on this site about the so-called 'character structures', that isn't a concept that I work with significantly or would encourage others to dwell on, because it too readily becomes an excuse for categorizing people and failing to see the uniqueness of each person and really looking to see precisely what's going on for that person.

What I'm suspicious about, however, is that a fair proportion of people who don't have an obvious physically-based autistic condition may well be getting 'diagnosed' by particular medics or psychiatric workers as having an autistic condition because of particular types of garbage interference that are affecting them, plus their being no-soul or nearly no-soul people. In particular, no-soul people are liable to get misdiagnosed as having Asperger syndrome or 'high functioning autism' (the distinction between those two categories actually being debatable).

I can't say to what extent that's actually happening, but I'm mindful that the widespread incomprehension of no-soul people by 'ordinary' (i.e., well soul-programmed people) is liable to lead to such misdiagnoses, for 'ordinary' people always tend to regard no-soulers as dysfunctional / disordered, and so would be inclined to jump at any opportunity to stick a seemingly appropriate 'disorder' label on each one and thus justify their own unawareness, incomprehension and general lesser level of intelligence.

Looking at myself, I can see that I have various characteristics that would readily get me diagnosed as having Asperger syndrome or 'high-functioning autism' — yet I do lack certain characteristics that are generally regarded as key to that diagnosis. For myself it would be a pointless academic exercise to try and decide whether or not to stick an Asperger or indeed 'autism' label on me, for I've come up with a particularly effective working model of what's actually going on for me (and others, of course).

Getting a proper understanding of the latter would always render completely redundant any relevant diagnostic labels, for the proper understanding leads to means to resolve issues (as it's done in my case), whereas a diagnostic label is, well, just a label and leads to no understanding and no genuine resolution of the real issues that are involved. Instead harmful attempts are made simply to 'help' the individuals concerned to become more 'normal', at least partly based on the particular category that each has been put in.

So, what all this comes down to is that clinical diagnoses of Asperger syndrome or high-functioning autism need to be made with a much greater degree of awareness than is likely to be happening at the moment. For a start, it's pointless giving such a diagnosis to anyone at all without the diagnoser having a proper understanding of the soul / no-soul issue and indeed the garbage interference issue more generally.

Only if one has those understandings could the diagnostic labels be accurately applied only to the genuine physically based (and thus supposedly 'medical') conditions, and not be inappropriately applied and thus cause quite unnecessary serious problems for many individuals who, despite any superficial appearance to the contrary, are fundamentally in better shape than the vast majority of people.

In reality the use of the epithet 'diagnostic' or the term 'diagnosis' at all is simply a pretentious fig-leaf to hide the simple fact that the supposed diagnosers have no genuine understanding of what they're dealing with, and are unable / unwilling to do better than fit people into categories on the basis of combinations of characteristics that deviate from some sort of perceived or imagined 'norm'.

Is a pure knowing calm intuition inclined to be relayed with tainted information by the garbage, or indeed is it in itself created by the garbage?

My understanding on this is that theoretically, particularly for a person very advanced in their self-actualization, and genuinely without garbage interference, a 'pure knowing calm intuition' would be the way that their deepest aspects communicate with the superficial, conscious 'mind'.

This does also occur for anyone, but, as the questioner has suggested, in practice there's a problem. To the best of my understanding not a single person on the planet is altogether free of garbage interference, regardless of their degree of self-actualization, and so at least at times their 'intuition' is adulterated by the garbage, with a consistent agenda to mislead and cause problems.

That means in practice that nobody can trust with complete safety what's seeming to them to be their 'intuition', even though for some people well advanced in their self-actualization those intuitions may well usually be more or less correct.

However, I don't at all mean that we need to disregard those 'intuitions', but simply that we would be courting likely problems sooner rather than later by taking the content of our 'intuitions' as unquestioned 'gospel'. In other words, for safety we need to seek verification or otherwise of our intuitions — and that's where Helpfulness Testing, if carefully used, can greatly help — though even that can all too readily be knocked off course by garbage and indeed 'sticky layer' interference.

For this reason, as long as the garbage exists, we need always to be vigilant and never to take any intuition, Helpfulness Testing results or thoughts of ours as being completely authoritative / definitive, and thus we need to apply our own good sense and knowledge / experience of how the garbage is liable to interfere and seek to mislead us.

Hence my having put so much information about this on this website, including the masses of personal experience, which latter is intended not as a personal indulgence of mine but as an educational resource to enable others to become more proficient in recognising likely garbage interferences and using more effective discernment when considering apparent intuitions that come to them.

If we have no means to verify a particular intuition, then the sensible way forward would be to observe particular caution and open-mindedness about applying it in everyday life, and to observe particularly carefully the effects of applying it at any point. Even so, despite all the hazards, intuitions are always very useful pointers for us, and, if used well, can cut through enormous convolutions of 'trying to work things out'.

Even having a wrong 'intuition' can be extremely useful if it's properly scrutinized, for that scrutiny would tend to point you towards what your genuine intuition would have been telling you. That's of course just a particular case of errors, when sensibly regarded, being very useful steps in a learning process.

You say that channelled information needs to be completely disregarded, but I've gained so much from a particular channelled source. Are you saying that I need to forget all that I've learnt, that has helped me so much?

Yes, sort-of — or, no, not quite! (i.e., depending how one chooses to look at the situation). The point is, yes, you really do need to disregard ALL channelled 'information' because of the contained agenda to mislead. On the other hand in the past you may have got particular prompts that have led you towards furthering your own self-actualization process, from ANY source, including basically harmful sources such as the insidiously harmful stuff that comes to us from 'channels' / mediums.

Thus if you're functioning at least reasonably rationally (i.e., already have a fair degree of self-actualization, or at least are a no-soul person), you'd simply find out what you really need to know from your own deepest aspects via a combination of your own deeply aware good sense and Helpfulness Testing (for security), using any prompts that come to you in everyday life to assist you in cutting through the odd little blocks in your thinking process, and so gain various helpful insights more quickly.

However, even people in that situation would understand the need to keep clear of channelled 'information', which, by its very nature, is partial misinformation and seriously harmful even if some of it appears to be helpful in the short term.

On the other hand, the point about what you've picked up in the past is that it's best regarded as simply bits of life experience, which bear no sort of authority but out of which, here and there, you may find practical prompts to test certain ideas within yourself (e.g., by means of Helpfulness Testing) to see if they'd be helpful for you at the present time.

If you go further and regard the channelled 'information' as more than the odd prompt for your own thinking and testing-out — that is, as actual, real, information — then you're in deep trouble straightaway through not having sufficient ability for proper discernment. In that case your best plan of action is to completely discard all that you'd misguidedly 'learnt', because of the insidious distortions that it would have contained regardless of any 'help' you may seem to have gained from it.

Some aspects of my own self-actualization methodology started out as methods and ideas that I'd picked up from untrustworthy to downright seriously harmful sources — but the important point is that I didn't (at least for at all long) 'buy the whole package' of supposed wisdoms and actually seriously harmful channelled 'information' that came with those methods.

I simply used the received methods and ideas as prompts and some basic building blocks to enable me to start building up my own whole self-actualization methodology, which was based NOT on the channelled stuff at all but instead upon my own very practical experience- (and inner inquiry-) based working model of the true nature of ourselves and our malfunctions and obstacles to self-actualization. This is a completely different mindset.

Why aren't you interested in the links I sent you? They're to sites that have much in common with your outlook and could be helpful to you!

Ohhh dear! It seems to be a never-ending struggle for me to get it across to the many undoubtedly well-intentioned people who send me links and references, that I really do mean what I say on my Contact page, that I don't want people sending those to me, or otherwise recommending any books, websites, gurus, religions, spiritual paths, organisations, healing traditions / methods etc.

I make it abundantly clear in many places on this site that the ONLY genuine source of the answers we need with regard to non-physical or 'metaphysical' matters is OUR OWN respective deepest aspects, and that the almost universal compulsion to look to the words of others for one's answers is a sure formula for keeping right away from genuine self-actualization free from garbage-sourced distortions that would lead one into serious problems.

I appreciate that the very vast majority of people don't (yet) have the depth of awareness to enable them to tap the huge resource of insights and understandings and 'hidden answers' that's available from one's deepest aspects, and so they're inevitably habituated to hanging on the words of others — and indeed it's quite understandable that they keep trying to be 'helpful' by plying this awkward old cuss with links and references that they imagine could be helpful for me.

But where in the name of Winnie the Pooh have I asked anyone for such 'help'? Isn't it obvious from reading through this site, that I've got to where I have through setting aside external 'information' sources on non-physical matters and instead relying on a combination of my own observations, good sense and inner inquiry, getting genuinely helpful pointers from my own deepest aspects?!

As noted in my answer to the previous question above, in the past I myself did benefit from prompts that I gained actually from untrustworthy to seriously harmful sources — but the point is that that was before I had my Helpfulness Testing / inner inquiry method established, and was channelling and still to a fair extent floundering about, seeking answers here, there and everywhere.

I was having to do a hell of a lot of work and be led up and down a multitude of garden paths and around a multitude of mulberry bushes and, shall we say, through considerably more unsavoury places, in order to gain those prompts, which latter I'd have got easily enough without such timewasting and indeed harmful encounters if at that time I'd had an effective means of tapping the 'hidden' information source within my own deepest aspects.

If I spent my time following up links and references that are sent to me I'd not only be using time of mine that would be MUCH better spent for other things, but also weakening myself by continually engaging with other people's confusions and distortions, and having to spend energy resources looking for some possibly useful prompt here or there among all the ugly morass of confusions.

Also, by doing that I'd be training my brain not to think for itself, as is happening all the time with the vast majority of people ('sheep'). It's simply not a 'cost-effective' way of going about things for anyone who is serious about their own self-actualization.

In addition, it's necessary for me to point out that anyone who comes reading in this site and then seeks to direct me to others with supposedly similar viewpoints has so far largely failed to understand what this site is really on about, because instead of actually getting on and using my methods and working model, they're constantly still looking elsewhere and seeking to get me to do so too. One crucial thing that these people lack, and are seeking to get me to lack, is genuine focus. You won't get far in your self-actualization without focus.

I'm really sorry periodically to have to upset well intentioned people who mean to be helpful and really believe that they're being so because they actually have no proper understanding of what would be genuinely helpful — but the alternative for me would be to collude with their unawareness and indeed keep wasting my time and energy resources in seeking to keep such people happy.

If it takes somebody's nose to get feeling a little bit bloodied in order that they be given a much needed prompt to stop their well-intentioned seeking to interfere with me, and indeed to hold their own outlook up to proper scrutiny, then that's the way it has to be.

If you want to be genuinely helpful to me, then the first and primary thing you need to be doing is getting consistent and methodical about your own self-actualization process, and sharpening up your focus in that. Until you're doing that, and in an ongoing fashion, you're little or no genuine help to anyone (i.e., with regard to matters of self-actualization and 'healing').

Do you think it's possible that my interaction with the garbage can make my dog have a mysterious disease?

Questions of this sort are really time-wasting ones, and I'm responding to this question only to use it as an example of one of the sorts of question that I have no intention to keep fielding, from people who don't read the notes on my Contact page properly, or at least with sufficient awareness.

All sorts of things appear to be 'possible', but that doesn't mean that it's a helpful way to spend one's time, creating or taking on board (inevitably from the garbage) 'story' about various things that appear to be a possibility. In this particular case, what the person needs to do is simply use the methods I give on this site to clear himself of the garbage interferences.

If they're in some manner (perhaps via an elemental) harming the dog at the moment, then quite likely the dog's ailment would diminish over time, though there couldn't be any guarantee of that — but then again the dog's ailment may seem mysterious only because the person's ungrounded awareness causes him to see the situation in that light, and in reality it has some straightforward physical cause — for that sort of pinning troublesome and actually fictional 'story' onto events is the sort of thing that happens when one's awareness is poorly grounded!

On the other hand I don't mean that the person shouldn't have any idea about a possible causality between his garbage interferences and the dog's condition, but it would be wasting his time and energy to be generating stories out of conceivable possibilities and then being attached to the stories as some sort of statement of 'reality' or fact!

Clearly, if he wants to get a better idea of what's going on, to the extent to which that would be genuinely helpful for him, then the answer is to train himself to use Helpfulness Testing, carefully heeding the cautions and caveats that I give about that procedure. Then, if he's careful, he'd get a better idea, although not in the nature of this or that actually being fact. More to the point, though, through Helpfulness Testing, if he is clear-minded enough about it, he could gain really important pointers as to what could be done (if anything) to address the dog's condition.

However, there's surely only one really worthwhile reason for one to know if one's garbage interferences are adversely affecting the dog, and that would be if one didn't have a clear motivation to clear one's own garbage interferences and was simply worrying about the matter instead of getting on with doing something about it!

So, whatever the dog situation, the guy needs to get cracking, clearing his garbage interferences anyway (see Crisis emergency self-help — Life upturn the SMART way), and then the matter of whether the dog's condition is being caused by them is really just an academic one — a curiosity matter, and certainly not something over which to seek to take up my time with actually unnecessary questions.

As in some of my other answers here I'm being deliberately blunt to the point of no doubt seeming rather abrasive, but it does appear to be necessary to be rather off-putting to people who come to me with unnecessary questions in disregard of the notes on my Contact page. Please also see further above.

Why would fundamental consciousness create a food chain world as opposed to any other ways it could create a reality?

This is an understandable sort of question for people to get asking if they're new to my own working model, but actually it shows they still have preconceptions that are making it difficult to understand what I'm really on about on this site.

That question is based in the assumption that fundamental consciousness is effectively what others might call 'the Creator Consciousness' — i.e., something separate from and supposedly 'higher' than us, which thinks conceptually and so decides to 'create' this or that type of 'reality'. According to my own understanding, that's just a fiction that the garbage cultivates in most people in one form or another.

On this site I've sought to emphasize that fundamental consciousness isn't that sort of 'presence' at all, and you need to throw the notion of any sort of 'creator consciousness' out of the window.

Confusing, huh? — Sure! The point here is that fundamental consciousness is our non-dual aspect of consciousness, and thus is beyond concepts — so we simply don't and can't ever understand what 'experience' or 'existence' are, nor how or why particular experiences or 'realities' arise within consciousness. Also, we can't ever know to what extent other types of 'reality' are possible, apart from the troublesome chaos of the astral non-reality, nor whether anything that we could recognise as 'creation' occurs or has occurred.

So, from the genuinely enlightened perspective, the above headline question is meaningless, and also very unhelpful, for dwelling on it helps cultivate one's attachment to the illusory realities surrounding the notion of a 'creator consciousness' — a great formula for failing to die properly and then being programmed into (further) soul reincarnations in the usual degradational process that I've described in The true nature of 'the forces of darkness' and its interference and attacks.

If we're all one consciousness, then isn't that extremely lonely for social humans?

What a give-away question! Let's consider — what would the questioner mean by 'social humans'? — I've a very good idea what he actually means, even though he wouldn't be thinking of it in the terms that I do! He must be referring to 'sheep'! To get a better understanding, please read Love is not what nearly all people believe.

Of course 'sheep' would feel lonely at the slightest hint of countenancing of how things actually are (i.e., 'What Is'). They need to clear the masses of emotional issues they're carrying, which make them feel chronically lonely and so be driven to use each other in futile socializing and close 'relationships' in order to do their utmost to hide the lonely feelings they're carrying. To a 'sheep', it would be an unthinkable horror, any notion that at the most fundamental level we're all one, and apparently there's nothing else in the whole of 'Existence'.

What an anguish of loneliness a 'sheep' would feel upon contemplating such a scenario! Yet the need is NOT to withdraw from it because of those horrible feelings, but to get dissolving the emotional issues that are giving them those feelings every time they even think of contemplating what might actually be the case! One can never become free otherwise.

The reality is that nothing, no-one, is genuinely lonely! Loneliness, like goodness and badness, isn't an intrinsic quality of anything; it's just a label that people stick on situations or experiences or people to avoid understanding what their own impression of 'loneliness' really is, and the need to dissolve the internal issues that are causing those 'lonely' feelings.

Please see Understanding loneliness — The real practical solution.

I was cycling one day, when it seemed that a lifelong veil was lifting from me and I was opening to a great clarity, and everything was starting to make sense; that clarity has remained with me. How could such a thing happen?

The above is actually a précis / extract from an email from a particular man who shows clear signs of being a no-soul person and shows considerable genuine clarity in the way he writes to me, so I'm setting aside the explanation that would be more commonly applicable for somewhat similar reports, where the person is actually confused about what clarity really is and has got spaced out and having all sorts of astrally sourced perceptions and impressions (always a very unhealthy situation) and has mistaken that for 'clarity'.

These are the two explanations, not mutually exclusive, that come to my mind for this particular instance:

• For some reason the garbage is running a deception campaign upon him, having eased off on some of its obfuscations in his life experience to convince him that he is experiencing real clarity while actually insinuating distortions into that apparent clarity.

  That would be achieved easily enough by presenting him with even near-perfect clarity as an astral replica — in other words as an illusory reality that's only a subtle distortion of 'What Is', so that it's almost inevitably mistaken for genuine clarity.

  The problem with this is that one is then effectively imprisoned by the garbage, and it can distort one's apparent clarity in various troublesome ways, usually without his detection of anything untoward.

• At the point when he first noticed the change, he'd more or less spontaneously gained fundamental clarity — i.e., he'd 'crossed the threshold of enlightenment'.

From the fuller account that the guy gives, I get a strong impression that the second explanation is the primary one, but it's not safe just to assume that's the case and that therefore everything is hunky-dory. Even if he is now genuinely 'enlightened', that first possibility is still possible too, for the garbage very readily hijacks people's enlightenment-sourced experiences to divert them from really effective self-actualization, into illusory replicas of 'enlightenment' and 'clarity'.

So, that means a quite worrying quandary for the particular guy — right!?

Well, actually no, because, whatever garbage interference he does have, it's clear to me from his email that he is a no-souler with considerable genuine clarity, and he should find it very easy to get using the relevant methods that I give on this site to clear things up and thus effectively clean up his clarity! — So, my counsel to him and to anyone else who has any similar sort of experience is:

In practical terms it's simple to deal with situations of that sort, without agonizing about whether things are one way or another.

• Be as clear-minded as you can manage, without getting attached to any label of 'clarity' or 'enlightenment' (things are simply as they are for you, however they are).

• Use the methods I give on my site for self-actualization / grounding / dissolution of illusory realities, and stabilizing your 'enlightened view' (i.e., directly perceiving your true identity as being, or lying within, non-duality, as distinct from intellectually 'knowing' that that's how it is).

• Among the illusory reality zappings that you'd need to do (preferably using the Grounding Point procedure) would be All illusory or apparent realities in which I've gained enlightenment or any new level or degree of clarity, and all container illusory realities in which any of that is 'real' or 'true'. That wouldn't in any way deny any genuine enlightenment / clarity of yours, but it would initiate dissolution of any illusory realities that have been set up to trap you with regard to your having apparently gained your new clarity.

How do I cope with the 'void' that I'm left with, now that I understand that my great destiny for the world at large was just a fiction given to me by the garbage?

Lie down and die! If you're an animal lover, why not do a kindness and arrange it to happen somewhere where the vultures or other carrion eaters can have whale of a time with your body?!

I know, I know — my dreadful sense of humour — apologies where due! Now, more rationally, let's get looking more clearly at what the real situation is!

Somebody recently wrote as follows in an email to me (slightly edited to improve clarity):

Till now, I was under the impression that I had a huge purpose in this life. Something larger than life and that my destiny is somehow connected to the world at large in the end times. But I now know that this is stupid and unreal. And suddenly realizing this after 28 years, I feel a huge void. I feel like I've been living a lie and don't know how to cope with the truth. You must have had a similar experience — right? How did you cope and what did you do?

Actually, yes, indeed, as becomes clear when you read my account of my own garbage tribulations from 2003–2007, I was led by my 'guidance' into sort-of believing an 'amazing' convoluted mega-story about myself and my past from before the beginning of time as we know it, and a role that I was imminently about to get landed with as a sort of 'spiritual' king, called Gilgamesh II, who would be not only a great world leader but concurrently ditto for other human-type civilizations, notably one purportedly somewhere in the Pleiades star cluster.

However, my own situation made things exceptionally easy for me, compared with the difficulties that most people would have arising from the garbage giving them such a lot of 'story' about themselves and then their having got woken up to the need to discard all of it.

For a start, I was already enlightened, and even before crossing that threshold I was holding everything in my life experience up to a sensible questioning scrutiny — so that even when I took up an apparent belief, that belief was very superficial and lightly held, so that when contradicting new information came my way I'd simply drop the belief — which latter, therefore, was for me not so much a real belief in the first place but little more than just an open-minded working assumption.

Also, the sweet little garbage actually kept weakening the credibility of the great story it was giving me, by repeatedly telling me that this or that wasn't true after all, and giving me a replacement piece of the overall story. So, I learnt very quickly to be half-expecting to get new versions of this or that or indeed the whole story (or indeed complete denial that any of it was true, which latter actually did happen on the odd occasion, though the story 'miraculously' sneaked back almost at once each time!).

Rather than let that screw me up, I simply dropped whatever I was told was untrue, and shrugged my shoulders, thinking simply Well, if it isn't that, it's something else. — Bound to be true, if you think about it! — Really!

Even at the time I got a distinct sense of my 'guidance' struggling with my propensity to keep shrugging off the attempts to screw me up by getting me attached to this or that and then telling me it wasn't for real.

— And also, there was an overall basic point that made the whole mega-story something that I'd be very relieved indeed to drop. Within that story I had monstrously huge responsibilities, not just to 'Humanity' but to all higher beings / powers in carrying out my mega-role on their behalf, and my whole life was to be stage-managed all the time by those higher beings / powers.

That all seemed to me daunting and oppressive, giving me very little freedom of choice and, as I say, weighing me down with an absolutely unthinkable degree of responsibility, effectively for the whole 'show'.

Also, I was struggling to understand how 'Humanity' would really benefit from being just a lot of supposedly 'enlightened' and 'self-realized' 'sheep' being effectively ruled by this, albeit well-intentioned, lame apology of a buffoon (or however one might care to honestly describe me) with the grandiose name of Gilgamesh II! It just didn't make sense. Pull the other one, Cedric!

It was in April 2007 that I finally came to understand that there were no higher beings at all (at least, that any of us could ever know of), trying to give me genuine information about myself and some 'destiny' of mine.

I then understood that it was essential to drop ALL of the 'story' that I'd been given. My doing the latter did come as a bit of a wrench, of course, but that was for a very specific reason in which attachment to the garbage's 'story' hardly figured. The point is, I've always, since early childhood, been in conscious touch with my own genuine life task.

That doesn't mean that I had sufficient clarity back then to be aware of any specifics that that life task might have been carrying at that stage (more the pity!), but I did have a generalized sense that it was up to me to act and live my life in ways that would play a part in making something better of human life experience here on Earth — and it had to be something better than I was seeing in all the religions and other movements / organisations that, in their different ways, were seeking or at least claiming to be at least trying to make the world a better place.

I couldn't see the point of my or anyone else's life without at least some element of that fundamental life task actually being manifested.

So, for me the real (very temporary) wrench, upon dropping the garbage's mega-story, was because it looked superficially as though I was also leaving behind any notion of my having a genuine and realizable life task involving benefiting 'Humanity'.

That did feel a bit disturbing initially, but that was very short-lived, because it was then that I took action to get a proper introduction to Helpfulness Testing, which was really the key to my getting, bit by bit, the 'hidden' information and pointers that I really needed in order both to clear my garbage shenanigans and to become much more genuinely beneficial to people at large — that process to occur through my getting into a genuine and effective self-actualization process.

— And so it came about, so that I quickly left behind any sense of my having any sort of apparent 'void' remaining from my dropping the garbage's 'story'.

Indeed, even before I'd got started with Helpfulness Testing, my sense of genuine life purpose was quickly opening up as I worked hard on the spirituality-based precursor of this website to clear out all the 'spirituality' and other garbage-sourced material and start putting out to the public the beginnings of what appeared to be important new information that hadn't been made available before.

Instead of just another version of 'spirituality' this was now about genuine self-actualization and clearance of garbage interference / attacks, and how all the world's spiritual, mystical and metaphysical traditions and institutions were intrinsically in serious error and causing an untold degree of harm throughout all 'Humanity', taking people away from genuine self-actualization, and (more) into the captivity of the garbage.

Now, my understanding is that the garbage is incapable of actually creating stories from scratch. What it does is to take some existing or historical situation and then build up a distorted and typically much more convoluted and chaotic version of the actual / original scenario.

So, it appears to me that anyone who is more in touch with their underlying life task — that is, to find ways to promote self-actualization and, through that and related measures, to play what part they can in making the whole incarnated experience more meaningful and clear of the garbage — gets targeted by the latter and given a huge convoluted distortion of his own life task (and generally, converted into a 'destiny', which is actually a garbage-sourced concept) in order to side-track him and in all sorts of ways prevent him from manifesting his genuine life task, which of course would be significantly weakening for the garbage.

So, once we apply genuine clear-mindedness to the situation we can see that NOBODY is genuinely left with a void when they drop the garbage's big story about them, even if it initially feels that they have. Naturally the garbage would strenuously seek to convince the person that he has such a void and might as well now throw himself over that cliff or/and feed the local friendly vultures.

Yes, it really is true that NOBODY has genuinely come into this life for the purpose of sitting back and watching TV or going around everywhere 'making baby', getting pissed, playing computer games or forever fiddling with their mobile phone (or willie or p*ssy, if different!)!

We can see that, instead, each person who drops all that garbage garbage (sic) is freeing himself to get more in touch with, and manifest, his own, intrinsic, life task, which would really be broadly the same as mine is, and very much angled towards the betterment of the life experience of all people. — And of course the Good News (trumpet fanfare…!) is that the means to achieve all that are right here on this very website. — Isn't that convenient!

How on earth can a crystal or stone have non-physical or metaphysical properties or effects?

I'll let you into a little secret. The very idea of such a thing strikes me myself as pretty nonsensical! That is, on the face of it. However, it begins to make a sort of sense when you come to understand that the basis of 'reality', as we can ever know it, is NOT and can't be the 'physical' reality, but is consciousness (i.e., experience) itself. I explain about that in On the nature of reality and truth — Too simple to believe! :-).

So, an apparent metaphysical property of a stone is actually NOT something intrinsic to the stone at all (i.e., as far as we could ever know), but is the result of an interaction between consciousness and that stone. So, actually the property belongs to an aspect of consciousness rather than to the stone, even though it does appear to belong to the stone.

This is actually good news, because to a fair extent it's possible with the right methods to modify or reduce untoward effects that you may get from particular stones / crystals*. However, as noted elsewhere on this site, the vast majority of people aren't sensitive to such effects, at least to any really noticeable extent (apart from a general weakening effect of the edges and points on crystals). That's not because they're in better shape, but because they're more 'shut down' by their soul programming, and so they lack the deeper awareness that opens them to anything 'metaphysical', 'occult' or astral.

Wouldn't it be a good idea for there to be a group of people advanced in their self-actualization, who could be supportive to each other and work towards dissolving the garbage?

On first appearances it certainly looks that way. Indeed, for a few years I had a page on this site specifically for recruiting members for such a group. The result? — Only a very rare response to that page ever came my way, and they ALL were unsuitable, while in most cases imagining that they were at least probably suitable. Well, actually the odd one did superficially appear to be suitable but then 'went silent' on me, so presumably had got side-tracked into some other pursuit or preoccupation — and so was clearly unsuitable in practice.

There's nothing, of course, to stop anyone from setting up a formal or informal group of like-minded people if they manage to find such people — BUT about that I do have cause to give a great big red CAUTION! The point is, the reason why people are wanting the support of others for their self-actualization process is that they're experiencing lack of self confidence / conviction, and indeed normally downright loneliness in their situation, and are wanting the comfort of having supposed 'support' from like-minded people.

But this is just another instance of what's going on when a person is hankering after a 'relationship', and wouldn't just hinder but in most cases would put a complete stop to their self-actualization process. They can't be genuinely cultivating their own self-command while depending on the 'support' of others (who also have similar issues and are leaning on you and so obstructing their own self-actualization process)!

The potentially healthy way to come together is to do so for sharing work on a project, and to keep primary focus on that. In that respect, working to explore possibilities of weakening and even fully dissolving the garbage would be the most important and wonderful thing for which people could share a project, provided they did so awarely and were careful not to use their project simply as an excuse to come together to 'lean' on each other socially or emotionally.

I really do wholeheartedly wish to have a group of genuinely like-minded no-soul people who were properly motivated to get trying various things out for weakening / dissolving the garbage, but, as I say, so far all the people who've contacted me with a view to taking part in such a group were either clearly unsuitable according to my own criteria, or they appeared (provisionally) to be suitable but very soon indeed got sidetracked and 'went silent'.

Please note that if particular individuals want to be in a group to experiment on weakening / dissolving the garbage, but for some reason don't fit my own criteria for that, they're completely free to form their own group and carry out a project independently of me.

Although generally I'd expect to keep my distance from such groups, they'd at least have my overall general endorsement and goodwill for any active intention to lessen / eliminate the hold of the garbage upon human consciousness, even though I may have doubts about the effectiveness of their particular outlooks, understanding, and methodology for that purpose.

Why don't you get your pages translated into other languages? The world needs it!

Don't I know it — that the world 'needs' it! In fact, anyone who really stops and thinks about it wouldn't ask that question or indeed tell me that I should get my pages translated, as some people do, because they'd realize why that isn't happening. The issue is actually an ongoing slight stress for me, because I do very much want to have my whole Clarity of Being website (at least) translated into all practicable languages, but I appear to be powerless for this to happen, even in small measure, and I see no way that it could happen — i.e., in any useful way.

You just try putting yourself in my position. Supposing somebody offers to do translations of all the pages into a particular language. Now, even supposing the particular person has excellent translation skills, is (s)he also a no-soul person who properly understands the fullness of what I'm putting forward in my writings? — Extremely unlikely! For this particular job it's no good at all to be a great translator if you're going to incorporate distortions of what I'm actually saying into those translations.

As nearly everyone who writes (to me or posted on forums) about particular writings of mine does indeed distort their meaning at least to some extent, I can't sensibly agree to their doing such translations. I myself don't have sufficient of any language other than English to check the accuracy of any translation, and I'm not yet aware of anyone who could reliably do such a thing on my behalf.

And so we have an apparent total obstacle even before one would get to the point of asking how such a huge undertaking (even for one language) might be funded! Despite all my donation and sponsorship requests, I receive donations only rarely, and they're almost all small and none in the slightest what I'd really call large (like, enough to at least stop the draw-down on my very modest capital in order for me to live and to continue running this site).

— And my idea of private sponsoring of pages or major additions to extant pages went up like a lead balloon when I announced it much earlier this year (2015), with nobody at all showing the slightest interest in the idea. Funding for a major website translation project — forget it!

So, sadly and frustratingly, I can see absolutely no way that my work could usefully be translated even into one additional language, let alone into most or all of the world's 'living' languages as I and various others really want to happen!

Is there any way I can heal brain damage done by ECT when I was young?

Sorry to say, brain damage is a physical matter, and the prognosis is limited. Indeed, my understanding is that the medics' general opinion would be that no healing is possible. On the other hand, the medics generally show considerable ignorance of the real healing potential of the whole person when he is properly open to his own deepest aspects.

The only useful approach, then, to such a situation — at least that I'm aware of — is the use of the self-actualization methods that I give on this site, for a full self-actualization process, which would progressively enable you to get all possible healing and recovery, however much or little that may be.

Lest that sounds a rather miserably minimal prospect, I'd point out that at least getting a proper self-actualization process going would greatly improve your life in all sorts of other ways anyway, AND, most importantly, further reduction of brain function due to the early damage would most likely be at least considerably slowed or even halted, even though not necessarily actually reversed.

It would be a good idea to use custom declarations of intent once in a while to help focus healing intention upon the part(s) of yourself that you understand to be damaged — but the whole self-actualization methodology, including the dissolution of all relevant beliefs and illusory realities that you're carrying, is the primary need.

Why don't you make videos of your self actualization practices and procedures?

Rest assured, I'd have already done that long ago if it had been workable for me. Videos would really be helpful, I agree wholeheartedly. My issues are:

• I have no video camera of any description — and people need to be aware that I'm a 'pensioner', reliant on drawing down on a modest capital in order to top up my State pension in order to live and do things like running my sites, and have to prioritize my expenditure. Despite the powerfully life-changing potential of this site, donations that come to me are modest and few and far between, and don't even go near to covering the cost of running my sites. People are already getting a hell of a lot that they aren't paying for!

• Even if I had a video camera, to get decent results at all readily I'd need an 'accomplice' to either point the camera and ensure that the right things were visible in a really clear way, or to carry out the procedures so that I myself could be in charge of the 'filming'. The only catch about that is that I have no potential accomplice here of whom I'm aware. It would have to be somebody who understands and uses my methods.

• Just having the camera on a tripod would be very difficult to get even half-usable results here in my flat. It's a purpose-built single flat in a social housing scheme, and, with all my activities, my living room and bedroom don't have the space for decent photographs or videos to be produced, what with the general clutter. I have no funds for the larger flat that would really serve my purposes properly.

What are the differences between our 'genuine' feelings and those we need to disregard and let go of?

Here is an edited extract from an email that I received:

Just a little confusion on the difference between the spiritual feelings, compared to genuine feelings of well being. I understand and apply the difference but a little confusion on what causes these spiritual feelings. More like understanding the difference between the astral non-reality and what's real and true!

That's a really good question, and of course can't be fully explained in a quick soundbite, but nonetheless let's go some way to clarifying.

First, it would be helpful NOT to regard anything at all that you experience as 'spiritual' — not least because the term 'spiritual' is itself intrinsically loaded with confusion!

So, it's really a matter of recognising what feelings are intrinsic to you and what are a result of malfunctions and indeed direct garbage interferences. Generally speaking, such malfunctions would be indirectly sourced from, or at least aggravated by, the garbage, so the latter would virtually always be involved.

Generally, if you're feeling what you could describe as an emotion, it would be the sort of feeling that you need to disregard and let go of — it's as simple as that. The intrinsic feelings are more subtle, and nothing like so easy to categorize and label. The basic feeling is quite different from what people would call 'happiness', which latter is one of the things to leave behind. 'Happiness', and even more so, 'joy', are impermanent, transient feelings.

Some people believe that they have more or less permanent 'happiness', usually because of some attached relationship, but if you awarely examined the situation you'd find that that sort of 'happiness' is an unaware state that's actually the flip side of an underlying loneliness and unhappiness that the particular individuals are carrying. Just see how they feel when their partner or other emotional 'prop' is taken away!

Indeed, loneliness is a pervasive thing that needs clearing from one's system. When you're alone, feeling lonely is NOT your natural way to feel! If you feel lonely at any time, the source issue needs dissolving, so that you're able actually to enjoy your solitude! I don't mean that we need to be alone all the time, but just that solitude in itself isn't only not intrinsically stressful for us in any reasonable amount, but in reasonable moderation is genuinely enjoyable and, yes, beneficial. Indeed, a certain amount of solitude is essential for one's mental well-being.

The underlying genuine basic feeling, which, as I say, is more subtle than what's usually called a 'feeling', is really just your basic state, rather than what people would recognise as a feeling. It's simply in the nature of 'What Is' — a sort of vibrant, alert joyfulness and natural delight in all that one experiences, with a creative playfulness about it.

This is actually genuine love — something very different from the ordinary person's notions of what 'love' is! It can't cloud your awareness, and indeed is intrinsic to unobscured awareness. Sure, in some degree it goes in and out of foreground focus, according to what you're experiencing or doing at a particular time, but it's always there and is you!

Even without the garbage's interferences you could still transiently feel emotions — generally the obviously painful ones — in particular stressful situations, but you'd experience them differently from ordinary people at the moment, for you wouldn't be consumed or 'carried away' or driven by them, but would observe them, almost as if looking at them out of a window.

You'd recognise them simply as indicators of particular stresses that have come to you, and would still respond to the stressful situations in an aware and rational way, then drawing a line under them and the transient feelings that had been triggered.

That, then, is how you'd have great empathy — because you'd perceive what people are experiencing, and would 'feel' what they're likely to be experiencing, especially in difficult / painful circumstances, yet that 'feeling' would be an observing of the feelings, so you're not drawn into them and don't actually suffer, even if the other person is suffering — though you may well gain some stress from that sort of thing, because countenancing inharmonious things / situations / behaviours is always in some degree stressful, even to a fully functioning person.

You thus remain centred on that base-line of genuine love, and, apart from that intensifying transiently in particular situations, such as when interacting with harmonious / friendly people or seeing wonderful things out in the 'natural world', you have nothing that can be called 'emotions' apart from the clearly uncomfortable / painful stress indicators that arise transiently. Generally this latter would happen pretty rarely for really well-functioning people because most things wouldn't significantly upset them in the first place.

With the methodology that I present on this site, there's no need to fear that you'd weaken or lose that underlying genuine 'real', non-transient sort of 'happiness'. Indeed, it's actually beneficial to use Grounding Point to 'zap' any notion that how you're currently feeling is the real thing, even if it seems to be. That way you'd dissolve any illusory reality that's still masquerading as your basic, intrinsic emotional state, and so be left with less obscuration of 'the real you'. That basic emotional state is something that can't be dissolved by any means; at worst it could only be obscured or viewed through some sort of distorting filter (illusory reality).

The people who do tend to run into trouble through apparently losing (actually obscuring) aspects of their genuine basic emotional state are those using ongoing regular meditation as their primary means for supposed 'self realization'. They readily create for themselves a peaceful state incorporating an illusory reality, in which it seems to them and others that they have more or less 'got there'.

Unfortunately, their 'there' is an entrapping illusory reality, and so they're at least partially blocked from opening up the real thing. Some individuals who've taken that path have sufficient awareness at least to suspect that something is wrong, because life has become dull and uninteresting for them, apparently because of their relative lack of emotional feeling.

On the other hand, I expect that even the odd people using my methods might reach a point where they get worried that life has become 'flat' for them, without all the feelings they were used to. In that case at least part of the issue would be their continuing attachment to their old painful emotions.

They'd need to 'zap' some relevant illusory realities and check as to whether or how they are, perhaps, getting into a state of imbalance through using my methods. For one thing, they may have got far too serious about the whole matter, and need to cultivate a playful, humorous angle on all they experience and in their interactions with others.

Note my pervasive sense of humour on this site. That's not just a silly little personal quirk — it's really the 'oil' that has enabled the whole machinery of my own self-actualization process and my communication to others to run smoothly and effectively.

What are your views on the Buddhist Eight-Fold Path?

Somebody wrote in as follows (this is slightly edited):

What are your feelings on the Buddhist Eight-Fold path? I know that illusions of ascension and deistic figureheads can be incredibly harmful to self actualization, but I'm more asking about the general outlook and methodologies of the eightfold path, rather than any associated belief systems.

Please note for a start that this is among the sorts of question I don't answer, at least individually, for people who contact me from this site. I'm answering this one here for everybody in an attempt to forestall any similar questions that people might wish to send me in the future.

First, my counsel to anyone asking that sort of question is, to use the Google Search This Site facility (see the bottom of almost any page on this site) to see what I've written about Buddhism (or whatever other sort of 'ism' they're asking me about). One would find a fair number of Buddhism references, virtually all pointing to or at least including problematical aspects about Buddhism, though nowhere do I mention the Eight-Fold Path. Surely I should know it and have a view on it, shouldn't I! — Well, should I?

Actually, the headline question is so off-course that I find it quite difficult choosing where to start in clarifying the situation (indeed, let's have an apoplectic fit right now just for the fun of it)!

For a start, when somebody asks that or a similar question, that person, even if basically not a 'sheep' at all, is still at least superficially carrying a bit of the 'sheep' mentality, in which the words of a teacher / guru — especially a prominent or revered one — or of a tradition based on that teacher's supposed (probably greatly adulterated) 'teachings' — are seen as being of great or supreme importance, even to a person who comes to this site and gets taking on a genuine self-actualization methodology at last.

As long as you're following or at least interested in or hankering after a 'path' that somebody has laid down for people to be following, your are at least hankering after the 'sheep' mentality and hindering / obstructing any genuine self-actualization process of your own.

The Buddhist 'teachings' do contain elements that can point people towards enlightenment and self-actualization, yes, BUT those elements are presented in a harmful, distorted context that ensures that even people who do gain enlightenment and some sort of self-actualization do so in an unbalanced and distorted way, which cultivates particular illusory realities that are more than likely to keep them captive of the garbage when they die.

Buddhism is basically a spirituality tradition, so inevitably any attempt towards self-actualization and enlightenment within that tradition is bound to entangle you in all the problems of spirituality.

Buddhism, like many traditions, does include words and indeed whole tracts of 'wisdom' in its 'teachings' and scriptures, BUT, what do we know, or at least need to know, about 'received wisdoms'?

— Surely, as I've emphasized in many places on this site, however 'wise' or seemingly 'correct' they may appear to be, they're ALL harmful because they're diverting your attention away from where it needs to be, which is the precisely custom-tailored practical information (NOT 'wisdom') that you get from your own deepest aspects through a genuine self-actualization process. The latter is what you get through using the methodology presented on this site (including the crucially important Helpfulness Testing).

I don't remember the details of the so-called Eight-Fold Path, and it would be a waste of my time even looking it up online, because it's simply irrelevant and a distraction for anyone who is seriously looking for comprehensive genuine self-actualization free from the plethora of traps and side-tracks that the garbage has insinuated into any supposed 'self-realization' direction through any tradition or following of a guru / teacher.

When I say you need to keep clear of all traditions, writings, 'received wisdoms' and so forth, I do mean ALL of them. On this site I simply present a working model and methodology that you can try out for yourself, for enabling you to be fully in command of yourself as an incarnation of fundamental or deeper consciousness itself, free from at least significant garbage interference. I myself am not here to be followed!

Leave it to the 'sheep', who don't know better, to follow their various teachers and 'paths' and remain 'sheep' in captivity of the garbage until the cows come home on a blue moon in a month of Sundays in a year that never comes anyway!

How do I stop myself becoming too attached to or compulsive about self actualization?

Somebody wrote in to me as follows:

I have a question about Living with Intent. […] In the past couple weeks I have attempted to integrate this process into my life, doing what I can to let go of as many attachments and compulsive behaviors as I can, and trying to become more grounded overall. I'm pleased with the progress I've made. However I've noticed that my desire to live with intent has started to resemble a sort of compulsive attachment in itself. Is it okay to vow to live with intent? It seems like a silly question now…

Actually such questions are quite easily answered by the askers, so really they're best not to come to me at all. All it requires is a little more thinking-through, based on my working model and methodology presented on this site.

However, I don't mean that as a withering comment about the above quote, because, although the questioner could have worked out his own answer, at least he has the gumption to be holding his own behaviours and outlook up to proper scrutiny and wanting to do something effective about what he recognises as most likely unhelpful.

His question is specifically about 'living with intent', but I'm broadening the remit of that to cover the whole of self actualization to make my answer more widely helpful, for the principles are just the same throughout. 'Living with intent', understood in its fullness, effectively amounts to maintaining an active self-actualization process anyway, at least in the sort of state that people are generally in at the moment.

For me his question is rather an excruciating one — but not what I'd describe as silly, because he is clearly trying to think through to a solution but has come up with quite an 'Ouch!' one, because he hasn't connected with what I have to say about vows.

There are actually two prongs to such an issue, and of course sweet little garbage helps ensure that the person generally has a confusing conflict between the two. First one has an underlying rational prudence, which recognises the need to let go of any attachment or compulsive elements in one's self-actualization process (i.e., just as much as in all other aspects of one's life) and to have a grounded, balanced approach to it.

The garbage then feeds an anxiety into that, which readily brings in an attached / compulsive element into the proceedings, so that the grounded, balanced approach gets more or less left behind. Then, if sufficiently aware, the person notices that at least probably something isn't right, and then gets worried about his apparent attachment / compulsion… — You get the picture? — I greatly empathize, having experienced all these things myself as well as seeing it all operating in other people.

The immediate sane response to this sort of thing is to start with an immediate amused internal Down, boy! — Cool it! I know everything's okay really, and all that's needed is a little easy rebalancing! — And you simply follow that through with appropriate action — again, in a light-hearted, amused sort of way.

Okay, clearly we shall NOT include any sort of vow in our approach to this or indeed anything else. To tell the truth, I rather think that the questioner quoted further above was really trying to think of using a declaration of intent, which his deeper aspects were seeking to draw to his attention, but he just needed to make an additional connection in his thinking (probably needing to read a bit more extensively / thoroughly on this site).

If you make an affirmation / declaration of intent that your self-actualization process is intrinsic to your true nature and therefore is 100% secure, and you're able easily to dissolve all appearances or impressions that it's otherwise (or wording to that effect), that would be a great starting point for getting into a more balanced state over your self-actualization process. There may well be the odd other, related declarations of intent that you could helpfully use too.

Also, note that if you have any sense of 'trying' in your self-actualization process or 'living with intent', that's a problem in itself as long as you maintain that perception. Think in terms of 'allowing' instead of 'trying', and see how much easier things become with that approach instead!

One of the troubles about 'trying' is that you're then really trying to jump ahead of the actual process that's running for you, indeed rather blocking it off, so that what you'd be achieving like that would be just a clumsy parody of the real thing.

Look at all the 'spirituality-' and 'self-realization-heads' around us to see how locked they are into rigid parodies of self-actualization, being full of beliefs and unable to think clearly for themselves, just because they were all trying to be 'spiritual' or 'self-realized' but without cultivating the underlying process that would enable genuine self-actualization to come about!

Then you need to look at the content of the illusory realities that are or may be associated with the anxieties underlying your issue(s). What you do there is to pick up the particular underlying fragments of truly absurd 'story' that are, or look as though they could be, fuelling the stalling or/and compulsive operation of your self-actualization process.

And what do we do with those bits of illusory reality 'story' (including 'I need to try to… or otherwise I'll never get out of this and something unthinkably dreadful will happen to me')? — Grounding Point and The Work, of course. I recommend both for this sort of issue.

Additionally, a down-to-earth, grounded approach to your 'process' is needed. Be efficient in how you allocate time for practices / procedures, and keep it to a quite small duration per day, and accept that on the odd days it may be better to concentrate fully on the day's everyday tasks rather than spending time on 'self-actualization' procedures.

For example, for me generally a hiking or nature recording day is a pretty full one and I don't do any practices / procedures on those days, apart from just occasionally responding constructively to some particular stress by using my quick Feedback Loop Zapper procedure. Most commonly that happens very discreetly when I'm on a hitch-hike to or from one of my hiking / field recording locations and I'm cooped up with a driver who is causing me stress in some way, such as unawareness or a religious agenda.

It's greatly helpful also to keep in mind that in order to be in an optimally balanced state overall, you need to allow yourself to be reasonably comfortable about the fact that much of the time you will be in some degree out of balance one way or another. So, being optimally balanced overall means being in a healthily balanced average state, with no significant overall bias towards one 'side' or trait, and a minimum of, but not necessarily no, temporary occurrences of major imbalance.

Once caution about all this is that, if it appears that you may be getting too attached or 'obsessive' about 'living with intent' or your overall self-actualization process, the 'problem' may be simply that you're unused to being properly focused and consistent in your approach, and of course the garbage would seek to submerge your attention in such concerns in an attempt to disrupt your healthy and positive direction. The answer? — As with so many things, use rigorously applied inner inquiry using Helpfulness Testing.

That's how I've repeatedly got myself out of all manner of concerns and confusions relating to how I conduct and manage my own self-actualization process and living with positive intent and also handling the many garbage interferences / attacks that superficially appear difficult or impossible to dissolve / get clear of. Focus and consistency are essential, but they don't require, and indeed need to be without, rigidity.

Again, Helpfulness Testing enables one to make everyday life choices that embrace flexibility while you're still maintaining focus and consistency in your living with positive intent and thus your self-actualization process.

I find your site fascinating [/ really interesting]! Would you please tell me…

I bet you find it fascinating / really interesting! Thanks for the warning — I'll give you a wide berth!

You think I'm joking there? — Well, you can think again. I didn't put the monumental amount of work that I have into this site to provide people with entertainment (mere fascination or 'interest'). I put in all that work in order to do what I could to enable people to get in touch with the underlying meaning and purpose in their lives and progressively clear out all untoward influences — not only for themselves but for all human consciousness in the whole of 'Existence'.

It would be a total waste of time my engaging with people who are simply fascinated or 'interested' in this site and want to ply me with questions. They haven't connected with the real purpose of the site at all, and are far removed from any self-actualization process in their own lives. People who make such approaches to me (always ignoring the notes on this site's Contact page) will find that my response (if any) is rather brusquely to refer them back to the notes on my Contact page, without answering any of their questions.

Are you a virgin?

You think I'm joking, including this question? — In fact the reason why I've put this in here is because somebody just yesterday included this very silly question in a pile of troll-type rubbish that he put into his comment in his Visitor's Book entry on my Personal Website. Indeed, he asked other pointless questions, like You wrote you decided to be born gay to promote self actualization and but don't see yourself as typical gay. Doesn't this mean, that now that you found a way to promote self actualization, that you could have sexual relationships with women?.

I'd gently point out in any case that it's completely irrelevant to the subject of this site as to whether I'm a virgin, a blethering munt-wuggler or indeed a gay three-legged salamander, and therefore just on that count alone the headline question is a time-waster, just for ignoring.

Please note that people who come to me (even through the Visitors' Book) with such questions will get short shrift or be completely ignored and their communications summarily deleted. People who read this site properly and without preconceived notions would know the answers to the above questions anyway, for whatever good it would do them, and they'd also know that I have nowhere said that I ever decided to be born 'gay' or indeed with any other orientation or configuration!

What is your view of the Vajrayana practice of Phowa in Tibetan Buddhism?

Actually, although I hadn't mentioned that practice on this site before I was eventually asked about it, anyone who reads through this site with good awareness would be able to work out what my answer would be. It's basically a practice carried out at the time of a person's death that's purported to enable the practitioner or a person being assisted by the practitioner to project their consciousness directly into non-duality so that the person supposedly dies properly and doesn't have to (soul-)reincarnate again.

But yes, if you've done that aware careful reading through this site you'd have already realized what I now have to say about that.

It's nothing more than a seriously harmful 'dark' practice, which, if it achieves anything at all, projects the practitioner or/and target person into an illusory reality that gives them the impression that they've 'made it', while actually they've then become much more strongly captive to the garbage than they'd ever been before, and in some cases incorporated into the cacoprotean network for good measure.

Like all 'spiritual' and esoteric practices, it's for avoiding like the plague.

This warning also includes any sort of sexual practice that involves your supposedly projecting your consciousness into a singularity or void or over some sort of precipice, or indeed into or over anything at all. All that is just different versions of the Phowa principle, no matter whether or not one's superficial intent is about dying at all.

You'd find such practices in some versions of 'Tantric' 'lovemaking' and in various 'dark' traditions and cults. Indeed, in the current state of 'Humanity', ALL 'Tantric' practices, whether sexual or not, are effectively 'dark' ones, regardless of all the glowing claims made for them as means to achieve or enhance enlightened living, and so are all for keeping well clear of.

And finally, to hammer the basic point home because it's so important:

If you value your well-being in this and any future lifetimes, never, never, never, seek to project your consciousness (or indeed a strong experience such as an orgasm) into anything, anyone, or any sort of 'space' or void or 'singularity' at all, no matter whether at the time of dying or at any other time — and no matter that certain traditions or cults may regard doing so as a virtuous or 'healing' practice!

There's so much cruelty to and suffering of animals in the world. How do I cope with this reality?

Somebody wrote in as follows:

There's so much cruelty in this world especially towards defenseless and innocent beings called animals. Of course humans also suffer but at least they can defend themselves better than animals. It pains me immensely to see animals suffer. Millions of animals are tortured everyday heinously for food, clothes etc even when there are other alternatives. Earth is hell for animals.I can't bear that I'm living in a reality where animals are abused constantly.I can don'thing about it except educate others about the cruelty in the dairy, egg and milk industry and follow a cruelty free lifestyle as much as possible. I can't accept this cruel reality. How do I deal with this reality?

Ouch — can't accept this cruel reality, indeed? What a give-away as to what's really going on here! Anyone who is struggling against 'What Is' is creating stress or indeed torment for himself, Big Time!

The matter of human use and abuse of animals is a dilemma for all really aware humans, and actually there's no clear 'right' or 'wrong' answer here, because nothing is intrinsically 'right' or 'wrong'. Those words are just labels we stick upon what we approve or disapprove of or make us feel happy or stressed. And actually — most importantly — we don't know and have no means ever to know to what extent any particular animal is suffering, because we don't know to what extent, if at all, they have the sort of self-awareness that we do, without which the whole concept of suffering would be meaningless.

That does NOT mean that it's okay therefore to do what you like with animals, because anyone who is at least reasonably deeply aware has a natural love for all beings at every scale in the Universe, and wishes none of them any more harm and stress than is genuinely necessary for the whole life system to function and flourish.

After all, as you can't genuinely know that an animal doesn't suffer when you treat it in particular ways, it makes sense to treat animals in as harmonious and benign unstressful ways as reasonably possible, on the basis that it's best to assume that they can suffer to some degree, even though without a similar brain to a human's they presumably have a much lower level of any self-awareness if indeed they do have it.

It's not that there's any sort of fundamental law that says one should not 'mistreat' animals, but rather, by doing so we're creating karmas for ourselves in the correct sense of the word that I outline in the latter link reference — that we're then acting inharmoniously, and that by doing so we're accumulating inner stress for ourselves, which can have all sorts of long-term harmful effects for us.

The big ethical dilemma for us, however, is that we're actually living as biological organisms and thus as 'part of Nature' ourselves on a physical level, even though our underlying nature is consciousness rather than anything physical. Therefore we can't help but impact to some extent on the life forms around us.

Although with great care we can get through life reasonably healthily without eating animals, the health benefits for us of not eating animals (i.e., as a healthily small proportion of our diets) are greatly overstated because they aren't presented alongside the health costs of such a diet regime — particularly any sort of vegan regime. Actually we each need to use Helpfulness Testing to establish for ourselves what are our most healthy and harmonious food choices from time to time, and our overall most healthy and harmonious diet regime.

Please also refer to the section on food choices in Healing and self-actualization — The safest and quickest way.

While I empathize very much with the person who wrote the above-quoted question, what I see there is a person who himself is greatly suffering and is projecting his own suffering upon much of what he sees around him, and using his consequent distorted perceptions as a whole arsenal of iron rods with which to beat himself and simply increase his torment progressively further still.

That's no worthwhile way for anyone to be carrying on — and I do NOT mean by that, that suicide is any sort of answer. Instead the guy, along with all other people fielding such issues, first of all needs to get a proper understanding of what's really going on for him, and then to take the necessary action to address what's actually gone pear-shaped for him. Makes sense, doesn't it?

You've no doubt seen the following little four-line gem in various places on this site, and here I repeat it yet again (and still few people really understand what I'm getting at! ). Do work carefully on really understanding what it means. Just as I myself am not just a funny face, my little four-liner here isn't just a clever aphorism to impress people, but a genuinely urgent message that every one of us needs to take on board.

On that basis, clearly if you're feeling tormented by any sort of world situation, your first need is to come into harmony with 'What Is'.

If you're feeling oppressed and tormented by the way people are treating animals or indeed other people, you need to sort yourself out before you could ever be genuinely effective towards helping the world to be a better place. Reacting to a situation out of painful emotion ensures that you put more stress and disharmony into the overall situation, not to mention your further cultivating your own self-torment.

Basically, you need to clear yourself of the emotional issues that are making you feel tormented by what you see people doing all around you. Also, if your attention is just on what people are doing to animals, you need to let go of that serious and nonsensical imbalance. While at least we don't really know to what extent animals suffer or could experience 'hell', huge numbers of people are creating immense suffering and indeed 'hell' for other people. We have the unenviable task of coming to terms with the reality of all the troublesome behaviours that going on — not just the way animals are being treated.

So, how are you to clear such emotional issues that you're carrying, so that you can then be in a reasonable state of peace and harmony, and to then be more effective on a rational basis for working towards improving aspects of the world situation that we observe?

From my own perspective this is actually amazingly straightforward. We need to recognise that those feelings of angst and inner torment are NOT the genuine 'you'. They're something superimposed upon you, for underneath all that emotional crud you're actually a fundamentally vibrantly happy and positive individual. Whether or not childhood stresses / traumas are involved, there's a universal cultivator and aggravator of such troubles within us — the garbage.

The task, then, is both to progressively dissolve emotional stresses / traumas that you're carrying (which almost certainly would be mostly or indeed all not your own) and to progressively immunize yourself against the simple mechanisms that the garbage uses in order to attack / manipulate you with those feelings and distorted perceptions of reality.

For that purpose the most effective starting-point is actually my page Crisis emergency self-help — Life upturn the SMART way — regardless of whether or not you consider yourself to be in crisis. That takes you through a step-by-step crash-course in laying down the right mindset within which you can take steps back from your current distorted and self-tormenting preoccupations and instead properly make sense of my working model of reality and the set of methods (on this site) that I based upon that, which are what you need to get using so that you can be at last joyfully genuinely sorting yourself out.

That way, you'd then increasingly get perceiving 'What Is' without projecting all sorts of distorted aspects of life experience onto it, and would find yourself making something immensely more joyful and constructive of your life, both for yourself and others.

How do I stop my mind being full of distracting thoughts and compulsive 'thinking'?

Many would tell you that you need appropriate medication. Others would tell you that what you need is ongoing formal meditation. However, neither of those would be doing you a genuine favour. Medication just disrupts your brain functioning, and consequently your mental functioning, in ways that may or may not inhibit your compulsive thoughts but would do you immense long-term harm both mentally and physically.

Regular meditation often but not necessarily does lead to a reduction or cessation of mental 'chatter', but it has a huge long-term hidden cost, in that it's ungrounding, so increasingly opening you to the astral non-reality and rendering you increasingly susceptible to illusory realities and garbage interferences / attacks.

Also, it trains you towards an unbalanced undiscriminating, un-dynamic mindset in which you just 'live and let live' without significant motivation to carry out any life task of yours to play some part in making the world and life experience generally (for you and all others) a better place to be. In other words, it simply minimizes or shuts down various currently uncomfortable aspects of your mental functioning without actually resolving at least the deeper-seated of the relevant issues that you're carrying.

Your life would thus be a shadow of what it potentially could be. Meditation leads people into subtle illusory realities in which they imagine they've (more or less) 'got there', so that when they die they're fully in the captivity of the garbage, even if they were not already so.

Fortunately, as I found out myself, there's a much better way, which cultivates our vibrant, dynamic, creative qualities and ability to enjoy life, without any costs of which I'm aware. Naturally — I would say it, wouldn't I! — the methodology that I give on this site addresses the issue. This isn't just a matter of following my instructions to carry out various of my yogic practices, although it does include them, but requires your actually applying clear, rational thought to your situation to cultivate your grounding.

So, the first thing is to start cultivating the right mindset. You're starting off feeling absolutely powerless to stop all those distracting thoughts, which no effort of yours can budge. The first step, then, would initially feel unintuitive, because it's for you to STOP TRYING to stop those thoughts! You need just to let them run (i.e., until they themselves run out of steam or just fade away)!!

Additionally, you need to gently and — dare I say it? — joyfully keep your focus on your real physical tasks, while still being aware of the mental chatter but also being aware that that chatter isn't you and is simply something else quite irrelevant that for the moment just happens to be going on; it's as though you're hearing somebody else's television or pop music, but unlike those your mental chatter will progressively subside if you stop concerning yourself about it, and instead keep attending to all the physical things in your life experience.

Initially that may sound impossible, but there's an important measure to take, which would make it all go much more easily. Use the Grounding Point procedure to dissolve the illusory reality (one or more of them) that's causing you to be bothered by and absorbed in that mental chatter.

There's bound to be one that could be described something like If I don't keep thinking these thoughts I'll lose my mind / cease to exist, and as you're bothered by all that internal chatter, there would be another that could be described something like These compulsive thoughts will destroy my life if I can't stop them! — and another one linked to that: Nothing I do can stop this happening — this is destroying me! — and of course the consequent I must try, try and try again to stop those thoughts — this is desperate, for something terrible is happening / will happen to me!.

Any particular person may well have other related or unrelated illusory realities to dissolve using Grounding Point, but actually they're quite easy to recognise if you put your rational mind to work on it. You just examine each anxious or troublesome thought that arises and re-frame it into the statement of an imagined aspect of your subjective 'reality'. It is then ready for zapping.

The Grounding Point 'zappings' aren't instant in their operation; each zapping represents the initiation of a dissolution process that may take a few months and in some cases require an eventual repeat to continue the process. However, I find that in practice usually the worst effects of an illusory reality can disappear much more quickly.

For the most effective clearance, including often almost immediate stalling of garbage attacks that are the really major part of whatever is troubling you, you also need to use the Feedback-Loop Zapper procedure. That needs to be carried out as soon as possible after every Grounding Point zapping, as well as at other times when garbage attack is implicated or suspected.

Last but not least, it's little good just using the two procedures I've mentioned if you're not using a good range of the other self-actualization methods that I give on this site. 'Cherry-picking' — just using one or two procedures for addressing a specific issue, without their being part of a comprehensive self-actualization strategy and process, is a sure-fire way of failing to achieve anything much worthwhile. Grounding Point, for example, won't be dependably effective if it's not being used as part of a much larger whole.

"Your insights and methods have turned my life around, but how do I deal with adverse behaviour coming to me from other people?"

Somebody wrote in as follows (the odd small edit for clarity):

I've been experimenting with your self-actualising methods for a few weeks now and I must say they're really effective, and work really fast too. Like you, I was on the receiving end of the astral garbage interferences and attacks to the point of suicidal depression. But now not only is my recent depression gone, my psychic abilities(which I knew were never good things) which I was born with for 24 years are dissolved too and now I feel free. I know I still have work to do but I'm now so much better thanks to you. So thank you sincerely for everything you share on your website.

While most of the garbage interferences and attacks have been dissolved for me, there's still one problem that I haven't successfully dissolved because it happens on this physical reality and not on the illusory astral non-reality, and honestly I don't know what I can do about it. Recently the garbage seems to like attacking me through other people (including neighbours) by making those people being rude or plain nasty towards me (this just shows how much people in general are very ungrounded and are prone to garbage's influence), or even better for the garbage, attacks in the form of racial discrimination (sometimes physical confrontations). Although it can be hurtful, I actually find it more annoying than anything else. I think you may have similar experience to this (and I won't be surprised if that does happen to you) and I'd like to know how you've dealt with such problem yourself.

Without prejudice to some hypothetical specific exceptional case that really does require some special handling, I'd reassure this person and everyone else that at least almost always such situations as described above are nothing like the big deal they seem to be to the individuals caught up in them. What seems baffling is that one seems powerless to stop these people behaving in such stressful ways towards one, and indeed I myself have had my share of that. Why are they doing all that to me?, and so forth!

However, the real need for all of us, whenever somebody acts in a way that stresses or upsets us or appears to be otherwise adverse, is to step aside from our feelings about the matter and actually look at what's really going on, and then to take the necessary measures. In some cases there would be some input that it's necessary for you to give to the other person, BUT before you can even start to be really effective in such situations there's something else you need to be addressing first.

The point is, why are you getting stressed / upset in the first place? Generally speaking, you can't directly do much or indeed anything useful / effective about the intruding individual's stressful or troublesome outlook / behaviour or their garbage interferences that make them behave that way (in other words, you can't sort out their issues), but actually, if you think about it, each such person is unwittingly doing you a great favour, just as sweet little garbage unwittingly did me a considerable favour each time it attacked me. — How come?

— Because when these things happen you're being pointed to vulnerabilities that you're carrying, which you need to clear! So, you can then address and clear those, so that through clearing more and more of those vulnerabilities — surprise, surprise! — you become progressively less and less vulnerable. In other words, the garbage and 'difficult' people can't help but point out to you what you need to do in order to become immune to their adverse behaviours towards you.

Isn't that convenient — and it really does make the garbage and those 'difficult' people look pretty silly, like the schoolboys doing silly things with their pants down in the cycle shed, oblivious of the fact that people regularly entertain themselves by peering in the window and through the conveniently-placed knot holes!

The methods for doing that bit of clearance (at least, the ones I know) are presented or pointed to on this very site, so you don't have a genuine problem any more, but instead just little bits of very satisfying ongoing work to clear the further vulnerabilities of yours that have become pointed out by the latest little stress or upset you're experiencing.

Basically you use the same methods as for clearing garbage attacks — so, you need to stall the emotional button-pushing (use Feedback-Loop Zapper for that), and to recognise associated illusory realities / 'story' that is, or is likely to be, underpinning those feelings, and dissolve them, using The Work or/and Grounding Point. If you're more or less new to these methods, you'd do best to get using The Work as a priority, because that helps gain you a particularly rational mindset in dealing with 'people problems'.

As you clear more and more, you'd be not only less upset at other people's behaviour toward you, but would be altogether more rational about the overall situation, so that you could take positive measures in a joyful, clear-minded way rather than incompetently out of reactive painful emotion. Generally, when you're no longer being significantly stressed by such individuals, they tend to ignore you rather than make themselves unpleasant to you.

And if it really is the most rational thing in a particular situation for you to be awarely strongly assertive, say, to confront a particular individual who is doing something anti-social or harmful, then without reacting out of upset you're much more likely to find that your assertiveness of that healthy type puts that person right off messing with you.

An example of the latter in my own life is the occasions in recent years when I have thunderously confronted anti-social cyclists on a supposedly cycling-free stretch of canal towpath near where I live, when they've got uncooperative / insolent when I sought to gently point out that for good reason that bit of towpath is covered by a cycling prohibition (indeed, some years ago I myself nearly ended up in the canal because of a cyclist coming up behind me on that narrow and bendy path and evidently thinking I had eyes in the back of my head!).

I quite frightened certain of those, and even the ones who just continued with insolent bluster haven't come under my radar there again. I don't recommend that people take such measures without being very sure of themselves, because such confrontations can easily just add to their stress and in certain situations possibly end up with their becoming a lump of carrion to attract the attentions of the police as well as the flies!

Helpfulness Testing, rigorously and vigilantly executed, helps ensure that you make the best possible choices, with a minimum of faux pas or indeed calamitous blunders. Very often the best choices are ones not pointed to by any rule or guideline that you may be attached to, but are instead based in pure pragmatic good sense — and Helpfulness Testing, well used, would point you to that rather than the former.

Aside from the rare, carefully chosen rather extreme assertive actions, generally I find myself simply ignoring / avoiding people who I recognise as being a potential stressor or drag upon me. The reality is that I'm only one man and can't sort out the problems of all or even any of these people around me.

Where some degree of interaction is unavoidable in sensible practical terms, then I keep the interactions as superficial and brief as reasonably possible, being 'non-committally pleasant' and good-humoured with them, then immediately drawing a line under the encounter and being gently glad to see the back of the respective individual (while wishing them well) and attending to more fruitful and strengthening things once again.

One very normal repetitive error that I've progressively moved away from making has been my having unhelpful expectations of other people, in all sorts of ways — and I see this going on between people all over the place. They don't understand, nor want to know about, the actual reasons why they're drawn to each other and interact in particular ways that are actually, normally unbeknown to themselves, entangling with and grievously reinforcing many of their more noxious emotional issues.

So, as we progressively cease to unawarely seek all sorts of emotional comfort from the people around us, we get drawing proper boundaries between ourselves and others, and so for that reason cease to get at least most of the perceived 'nasties' from them that we were getting before.

Does all that mean that I myself have got everything right in my everyday life nowadays in dealing with 'difficult' or unaware people? — No, of course not! I still make plenty of small errors and occasionally considerable gaffes, but I do appear to be making progressively better choices and continuing to reduce the incidence of my little boo-boos.

Those that I do make are all part of my learning process, and thus are used as part of the means for me to continue progressively improving my life experience and making me still more of a positive influence among other people, so nothing is a wasted experience. Even the odd big gaffe is less stressful than it used to be, because I'm much better able these days to laugh it off and draw a line under it, including with any involved / affected people.

If you yourself imagine that you're nowadays past making such errors, then something's awry and you need to hold your life and your awareness level up to more careful scrutiny than hitherto. I very deliberately don't present to the public the 'inscrutable front of perfection' that appears to be the norm for individuals presenting themselves as some sort of teacher, guru or guide with regard to people's improving their life experience. If they're great teachers of anything, it's of pretence, including self-deception.

You would do well to keep in touch with the reality that I'm not some notional 'paragon of perfection' guru but a decidedly inconvenient and awkward whistle-blower who stumbles like everyone else, even though I've clearly been learning a lot of lessons and thus progressing more readily than many.

How do I square the need for honesty now with shady / harmful things I've done in the past?

Let's be clear that the concept of honesty / dishonesty is highly problematical and generates all manner of problems and needless convolutions in people's life experience. Really, 'honest' and 'dishonest' are judgemental labels that we put onto people or their communications in much the same way we use the words 'right' and 'wrong' or 'good' and 'bad'. Things are as they are and we are each as we are; that's the reality. If you set out to deceive, then that's what you're doing, and a pejorative label doesn't genuinely help anyone in understanding the situation or doing anything useful about it.

Some people have called me 'totally honest', while others have called me an impostor and charlatan (in this context, both the latter being synonyms for being seriously dishonest). In a way, the people in both those camps have got it wrong, because they haven't stopped to think about what we're really meaning or achieving by labelling a person as supposedly honest or dishonest.

Suppose that at some earlier stage in my life I went around shagging kangaroos. So, I go around ever since feeling horrendous shame about it, but do my best to tread around that aspect of a phase in my earlier years and pretend I'm okay really. But now, on more of a self-actualization process, I'm convinced that that process is resulting in my becoming more honest. What the hell do I do about my becoming totally honest, as surely I'm in the process of that dread thing happening? Surely it would cause all sorts of problems in my revealing things about my past that would cause great problems for me!

Actually this sort of thing is the regular storm-in-a-teacup that the garbage serves up to anyone who's done shady or socially taboo things in the past and now distances themselves from those things. For a start, what in the name of Winnie-the-Pooh do we mean by 'totally honest'? Do we mean, never to say something that's untrue, or do we mean, always to make sure that people know everything — every detail — about one?

But, more to the point, what sort of policy would be actually helpful and harmonious for one to be applying? Does anyone have a genuine need to know, or would they actually benefit from knowing, anything about my hypothetical one-time orgies of kangaroo-shagging? How many? Date and time of each episode? How did I go about each one? The outcome and repercussions of each one?

Did I do it with male ones, female ones, little ones? Were any kangaruman offspring produced? (Gosh, the perfect kangaroo-brat!) — and so on! I can just hear a bully-boy news-media interviewer haranguing me, - But, Mr Goddard, doesn't the public have a right to know? The question's perfectly simple — did you or didn't you…. And similarly for any supposed skeletons in your own cupboard. Is it really of any benefit to anyone for you to volunteer information about things that you've done in the past and don't and wouldn't do nowadays, and are simply irrelevant to any current proceedings?

Where is the necessity to continue to make an issue about what were effectively just experiments and errors you've made in the past? The feelings of shame, for a start, need dissolving, using The Work or/and Grounding Point. Then you'd find it much, much easier to get rational about your past experiences and deeds, and not to torment yourself about them. 

To keep things reasonably short here, let's just say that the real issue isn't about whether one should, or needs to, be 'honest' — whatever that really means — but to get awarely rational about what makes sense to tell or not tell, and to whom. All that requires is straightforward down-to-earth good sense, taking into account the likely effects and repercussions for you and for everyone else involved.

I don't go telling everyone my own sexual orientation — and in fact, after a brief 'coming-out' phase back in the early 1970s, I've rarely done so. That's not because I've retreated into hiding, but simply because nearly all the time it simply isn't relevant to any matter at hand! When it's truly relevant to some current situation, then I say or write what's appropriate about it in that particular situation. Simple!

Would I always tell the truth if somebody asks what my sexual orientation is? — Nowadays, unless they have a genuine reason for that to be a relevant and worthwhile question, I generally don't answer, and give the individual something of a reproof for being gratuitously intrusive (especially bearing in mind the actually unhealthy and potentially troublesome personal agenda that such a person is running in asking such a question without good reason). Yes, it really is none of their business!

On the other hand, to the best of my knowledge I'd not deliberately tell an untruth except in some extreme situation where my survival (not simply emotional comfort) depended on it and for some reason I couldn't avoid appearing to answer the question. Generally speaking, there's no genuine virtue in opening yourself to getting summarily slaughtered in response to your answer to some question; carrion has a remarkable inability to be a positive influence in the world (except perhaps for flies and other scavenging animals!), whereas while alive you do have at least a potentiality for that!

Like pretty well any sensitive no-soul or not too heavily soul-programmed person, I've had the odd little embarrassing or taboo situations in my past, and indeed the odd occasions when in particular ways I did some degree of harm to particular people.

These I generally don't talk about, not to hide them but because, again, they're simply not relevant. To feel that I had to reveal them regardless would be a sure indication of need for me to dissolve some inner self-recriminations. I happily mention any of them in situations where they're genuinely relevant and it's helpful for me to do so. Life's so much simpler and less stressful like that.

So, if you can genuinely and usefully label me as honest or dishonest on the basis of my comments above, then I'm a hippopotamus — and presumably so are you!

Is there some way for me to be in control when I start dreaming?

Somebody emailed me this bunch of questions:

Why do I always fail to realize that I'm dreaming when I get a dream? It's so pathetic. I forget who I am and get identified with the dream. I want to be able to realize that I'm dreaming and snap out of the dream immediately. Are there any techniques to be aware in sleep? And is it safe to be aware in sleep?

This is just one out of zillions of types of question that people bring me, to which simple, cut-and-dried categorical direct answers would do more harm than good. The real need here is to get an understanding of what sleeping and dreaming really are, and then you can respond rationally out of a proper understanding rather than just I'll do xyz because Uncle Philip the Mighty has pronounced that you should do xyz in this particular situation.

As it happens I can point you to an extremely helpful working model of the sleeping process, including dreaming and any practical significance of dreams. Please see the relevant sections in Ways of handling a prospective rough or sleepless night and The true nature of 'the forces of darkness' and its interference and attacks — reading right through those sections till you've run out of that subject.

On the basis of that understanding, I've concluded for myself that I'd be harming myself if I sought to stop myself dreaming. The dreams, while they need to be ignored (i.e., not dwelt upon) after the event, are simply artefacts of a vitally important subconscious re-evaluation process, and don't represent the process itself.

And by the same token, it would also be harmful to try to control the dreams, because then one would be inhibiting or disrupting the underlying re-evaluation process. So, the good news is that you don't at all need to be overtly aware that you're dreaming while you're dreaming!

On the other hand, as you become more deeply aware through a genuine self-actualization process, as brought about through ongoing use of the methods presented on this site, you'd generally be more 'in-tune' when dreaming, and have a general awareness that you're in a sort of 'thinking-through' process, even though generally not actually thinking I'm in a dream.

Note that my indications are that so-called lucid dreams aren't true dreams at all but a particular type of astral realm experience. In the event of one of those occurring, the real need is then to wake yourself up as soon as possible to get out of that astral realm.

What are your opinions on 'natural teacher' drugs?

Somebody who I shall just call X emailed me as follows (a few missing apostrophes restored for clarity):

I was just wondering what your opinion was on a topic I was thinking about. So from my experiences and from what you've told me, drugs overall whether legal or illegal can be fairly ungrounding to one's awareness and can make one more susceptible to garbage attack. However, people can learn immensely from the experiences provided by certain substances such as psilocybin mushrooms, ahyuashca, etc. These natural teachers have been used in the past by many native/traditional cultures all around the world, often being used to connect to the universe and what not. What's your opinion on this? One can argue that since these substances from nature can allow people to learn and understand life and the universe in ways that most people wouldn't be able to comprehend unless they experienced it themselves, can't they have some type of application in our lives (used one or twice)? I don't know if you know anything about Ahyuasca or DMT, but imagine the infinite complexities and structural working of the universe in visual form. That's what these substances can allow you to see and somewhat understand if used correctly.

First of all, let's remind that in the notes on my Contact page I make it very clear that messages asking for my 'opinion' on anything are generally unacceptable and would be ignored or the person be sent packing with a flea in the ear.

However, on this occasion the question asked is best directly answered just once (i.e., here), so that I need never spend time answering it or anything similar again. Actually I've already dealt with the basic principles to a fair extent in Cannabis — a serious warning, and I refer the reader to that page to avoid my having to repeat what I'd written there. Indeed, if X had read that page and elsewhere on my site really carefully and awarely, and indeed the notes on my Contact page, he'd have known not to contact me at all.

Now, to start with, before one gets carried away with the superficial gloss of reasonableness of X's message, let's put it in the proper context by holding it up to scrutiny for subtexts. Hard experience has shown that, pretty-well invariably, when somebody comes asking for my opinion on something, especially where it's something over which I'm challenging or cutting through orthodoxies, what they're really doing is making an approach to me to try to get me engaging with their own opinions, beliefs and preconceived notions, under the pretence that they're just interested in hearing my 'opinion'.

And, in the vast majority of cases, when I tell them that I'm not engaging with their approach and don't want to hear from them again until / unless they're using and benefiting from my methods, they write back with some choice form of abuse. That of course shows at once that my original assessment of them was correct and that they were definitely troublesome types who were well worth my having nothing to do with — regardless of how each may regard his / her own motivations and intentions.

I've already explained why I don't allow people to draw me into such things, in Why won't you answer the questions that I want to ask you? and Why won't you discuss your views with anyone?. Please read those before continuing here.

So, X is effectively claiming that a whole range of psychoactive drugs are 'natural* teacher drugs', which can 'teach' us important things. That may sound very wise and wonderful, but it's a hopelessly unfocused, ungrounded and plain ignorant view of the situation. The primary reality about this is that you have one and only one ultimate teacher, and that is an interaction between you yourself and ALL that you experience.

So, you survive a fall over a cliff, and hopefully you've learnt useful things from that, hopefully including to avoid doing that again! You put your hand in a flame, and hopefully you learn something similarly useful from doing that. Does that mean that therefore it's something actually worthwhile and good to do, to fall over a cliff or put your hand in a flame? Think about that!

Indeed, I myself learnt important things when I unwittingly self-harmed by taking cannabis occasionally for a short while in the early 1970s, as described in the aforementioned cannabis warning page. However, where I differed from the vast majority who take cannabis or other psychoactive drugs was that I still had the mental clarity to hold my experiences up to proper scrutiny so that I could see something of what was really happening.

— So, even long before I knew of cannabis's serious long-term harmful effects, I soon dropped its use like a hot brick, together with use of any other mind-affecting drugs, including alcohol and caffeine. The really important things I'd learnt from my use of all those drugs included an understanding that they were being used as 'crutches' to help people avoid facing, addressing and resolving the whole mass of issues that they were carrying, which were the real blocks to their awareness.

In effect, my using those drugs had served no better function than, yes, falling over a cliff, putting one's hand in a flame, or indeed swimming in one's local friendly sewer! Yes, they're all 'learning experiences' — though 'learning opportunities' would be a better description because almost all people have fixations / attachments that prevent them from genuinely learning the important things, so they keep doing the same harmful things over and over again as long as they're physically able to. If you like it or believe in it, it must be good for you, sort-of thing!

Through human history people have sought to increase and intensify their astral experiences, including through use of a whole range of harmful drugs, believing that those were opening them to 'wisdom', 'deep knowledge', 'higher awareness' and so on.

All the psychoactive drugs that appear to open you up to something interesting or important are really inhibiting or indeed destroying pathways in the brain that had evolved to minimize people's openness to the astral, so that then the garbage could 'pixie-lead' one all over the place with illusory manifestations, weird experiences and indeed all manner of hellish attacks — and, from time immemorial, people have been misinterpreting their actually parlous drug-produced brain-damaged state as being one of some sort of 'higher awareness'. Ouch!

People need to understand that what you see when you're getting astrally sourced 'visuals' and impressions, as one is getting at various levels when one takes psychoactive drugs, is what the garbage is showing you. — And the garbage is your great friend, guide and educator, right?

— Of course it or one of the illusory manifestations that it causes your awareness to create would tell you that indeed it's your great educator, and it could help convince you of that by making out that it's God, 'Jesus', Archangel Michelmaus, your purported 'higher self' or any others of its boundless menagerie of imaginary 'higher beings' or 'higher sources'! So, regardless of any potentially useful bits of information coming your way from such (apparent) sources, the important point never to let out of your sight is that it's all brought to you to mislead you in ultimately seriously harmful ways.

Am I saying, therefore, that one can't learn anything worthwhile through using such harmful drugs? — No, not exactly, because you can learn worthwhile things from all of life experience!

However, the use of psychoactive drugs (whether natural or synthetic) as supposed 'teacher' drugs is really just another variant (a particularly harmful one) of the whole caboodle of 'spirituality' (including religion) side-tracks that the garbage has got people into in order to divert their intrinsic motivation for genuine self actualization away from the real thing.

Pretty well all of those side-tracks contain morsels or indeed quite a lot of 'good' bits of understanding and good sense, but all fall short of the most fundamental and comprehensive understandings that can really set you and the whole of Humanity free. With the hugely vast majority of people all stuck into their particular distorted facsimiles of where we really need to be pointed, no wonder that my own working model and methodology are almost universally dismissed or ignored in favour of all the beliefs and traditions that are actually maintaining the state of horrendous dysfunction of Humanity overall!

If you really, seriously want to learn important things that seem to be currently closed to you, an absolutely great way NOT to go is to take any sort of psychoactive drug or indulge in any behaviours that act like those drugs, because they screw up the brain functioning and mental functioning that would otherwise enable you naturally to dissolve the blocks to your awareness and rationality, quite apart from opening you massively to interferences from the garbage.

Instead, your need is to precisely address and resolve the issues that you're carrying, which are blocking you in such ways — and here, on this site, are the very working model and methods that can achieve that. The wonderful reality is that in order to open your awareness in healthy ways you do NOT at all need to, and indeed need NOT to, seriously self-harm by taking psychoactive or indeed any other types of drug. The methods I present here can achieve that healthy deepening and broadening of awareness with no self-harm at all involved, and indeed with major benefits all along the line.

In this particular context the entry point that I'm suggesting here for my self-actualization methods is Crisis emergency self-help — Life upturn the SMART way, regardless of whether you regard yourself as being in crisis, for that lays down a simple set of steps for taking on the necessary understandings and frame of mind for proceeding with my self-actualization methods effectively.

What methods of self-realization would you recommend for me as someone who was put on antidepressants as a child and then abused cannabis?

My methods, of course! — I would say that, wouldn't I!

Somebody who I shall call X emailed me with that exact question — which initially suggested to me that he'd simply disregarded the relevant notes on my Contact page, and was inviting a summary dismissal from me (i.e., referral back to the Contact page notes).

However, his message elaborated further, showing that he was probably having a serious try at using my methods, and was really trying to work something out. So, what was appropriate in this case wasn't dismissal at all but giving some sort of answer here, as far as I could give one, so that other people could benefit without my having to answer the same sort of question again and again for them.

Here is his elaboration (edited for clarity):

My dilemma when trying to apply your methods to my journey of realizing my true self is that because I was on drugs for all of my childhood after the age of 9, and can't remember the time before it well. Due to the cannabis I seem not to be able to remember any instance of who I used to really be. Do you recommend any methods to unlock my memories? Or any other recommendations for my particular situation?

Let's be clear for a start that I have no quick-action cut-and-dried categorical 'silver bullet' sort of answer for anyone grappling with such issues — all the more so because I myself have no personal experience of his particular childhood situation — and I have no plans to set myself up as any sort of 'agony aunt' to pose as an all-knowing advice-giver to anyone with a question!

However, if we allow ourselves not to be daunted by details of the messy-sounding situation and consider the principles that run through my working model and methods, there isn't necessarily a genuine problem about handling this. It's more just a matter of some straightforward ongoing work being needed, together with the grounded and practical mental outlook that would enable that work actually to achieve the important results.

One thing that rather jumps out at me here is that X is particularly concerned about his not having memories, or at least clear-enough ones, from before his drugs involvement. Clearly it would be nice and presumably helpful to have those memories accessible — but does it really matter that much from a healing perspective? — Intuitively I very much doubt it, and my own inner inquiry while writing this underlines my intuition.

So, in this or any similar case where there's concern about some life circumstance getting in the way of my methods working properly for you, one of the first needs is to use The Work or/and Grounding Point to dissolve any beliefs / illusory realities that you're carrying, in which the particular apparent constraint or handicap really is an obstacle for you. You also need to remember to use the Feedback-Loop Zapper procedure to stall the emotional button-pushing and feedback loop involved..

You need to remember that self-actualization is very much about making the most (i.e., 'best') of the present, so actually being able to remember particular aspects of your childhood isn't greatly relevant to what you need to be doing now. Indeed, in X's case his current anxieties could easily lead him to put too much emphasis on such childhood memories if they did surface consciously, so that instead of genuinely opening up his fundamental, natural state, he could be trying to relive things that he was experiencing as a child before he got (supposedly) so messed up.

But apart from the aforementioned actions, the overall need is to use a good spread of the methods I present and point to on this site, to cover the various areas of strengthening your non-physical aspects and clearing the various weaknesses and distortions. I'm not aware of methods required specifically for the damage a person has presumably sustained from extended harmful drug use.

However, a real need for anyone's self-actualization process to be as effective as possible is to learn and regularly use Helpfulness Testing, so you can establish what are really the best choices for you at the current time, i.e., at any time. Then you'd most likely be able to establish whether or not you need to use some additional procedure(s), and even originate for yourself the precise one(s) that you do need to use in addition to the 'armoury' that I already give on this site.

— Actually, one particular procedure that everyone would do well to use, though it's particularly important where there's very significant drug damage, is the Environmental Stress Zapper procedure used on the precise substances that you've had contacts with — so, in X's case obviously cannabis in the particular form(s) in which he used it, and the particular antidepressant(s). If he doesn't know what the antidepressant was, the way to work round that data gap is to look up on Google images search for 'antidepressant tablets[or capsules, or in whatever form he received the medication]'.

Then to work a fair way down through that gallery of horrors, using the simple and quick ES Zapper procedure on a photo of each exact drug from the item (type) that you're looking at. If you're methodical about that you'd most likely cover the one(s) that were used on you. And indeed if you use Helpfulness Testing you could probably get a clear indication as to when you'd found a particular drug for which you needed to carry out that procedure.

The apparent dilemma for people in X's situation is that the long-term drug use — particularly of cannabis and no doubt some other psychoactive drugs — weakens or indeed apparently destroys one's motivation or mental ability to use the necessary methods, at least effectively, and so, with that in mind it's very easy to fall into the trap of thinking my methods couldn't work for you because you're 'damaged goods' — indeed, brain-damaged ones — and so you're stuck in a most intractable hole!

However, there's a crucially important positive aspect of the situation, which needs to be kept carefully in mind. As I remark in Cannabis and its cocoon of self-deception — A serious warning, although, yes, long-term cannabis use effectively damages a person's brain in a way that makes them resistant to any genuine self-actualization methods, each person is unique and has their own unique inner or 'mental' configuration.

I expect and assume that a very small proportion of cannabis-harmed people would still, through some fluke, have sufficient motivation and mental clarity to get using the necessary methods to get clearing their damage. Yes, they'd still have more of a challenge than a similar person without the cannabis (etc.) damage, and may not necessarily get so far in their self-actualization, BUT, as long as they really get on with it, what progress they do make would make a huge difference to their lives.

Note that I say that a very small proportion of such people would be able to do that, so, that's a really discouraging situation, meaning that it's probably not worth your doing anything about your situation!? — Actually, wrong! The point is, if you're really wanting to get a move on and heal your drug damage, straightaway you're marking yourself out as one of the minority who actually do want to change their lives for the genuine better.

That it would be more of a challenge for you than for some other people in no way negates the simple fact that you'd be able to get the best out of what you've actually got, and would at once be starting on a life direction based in genuine positive change. You'd need to remain aware of the likelihood of limitations and constraints caused by your earlier drug use, but only to ensure that you understand properly what's going on for you and don't go discouraging yourself by having unrealistic expectations or requirements upon your progress.

In other words, as with all genuine self-actualization process, the most effective mindset is one of a completely open mind about outcomes and time-scales, but always enjoying the progressive improvements in your life experience as you get better at using however much or little brain functioning you do actually recover. So, if you get actively pointing in that direction you're basically in a win-win situation at last. Isn't that nice!

One final little but important caution to X. He writes of my journey of realizing my true self. He'd make his self-actualization process much more effective by letting go of any notion of him being on a journey or 'path'. That perception is cultivated by the garbage in order to keep people locked into an illusory reality in which self-actualization is always somewhere far ahead rather than the reality of its being right here and now. That's why the spirituality traditions so consistently make out that people are on a 'path' or 'journey'.

Can other people ever hear my 'voices'?

Somebody, who I shall call X, wrote in as follows:

Once in a while I hear voices that yell out my thoughts in a ridiculing manner. I then feel other people hear these voices and use the information to also ridicule me openly. My question is, can other people hear these voices I hear, and can the garbage make other people hear my interference

If you stop to properly think about it, you'd realize that the strict answer is definitely 'no', because that's physically impossible. Even your own 'hearing' of non-physical voices is 'hearing' only in a loose sense. Rather, it's your being given (generally by sweet little garbage) the illusion of hearing the respective voice(s).

Taking the particular case described above, I well understand that X is getting the subjective impression that people around him must be hearing his 'voices', but the reality is that as they're non-physical and are just illusions that he is receiving, absolutely nobody else could actually hear them. However, in practice the situation is a bit less clear-cut than that because of the way the garbage can muck around with weakly-grounded people who are in the vicinity of a particularly weakly-grounded person such as X. Indeed, I take my sun-hat off to X for having at least a partial idea of what might be really going on for him.

Although nobody could actually hear X's (actually illusory and thus nonexistent) 'voices', in certain situations the garbage could give sufficiently weakly-grounded people the impression (i.e., an illusion) that they're hearing them. However, whatever they 'hear' in such cases would NOT be exactly the same as what X is hearing, because they aren't hearing that but are being given a garbage-sourced simulation of it.

Because of the nature of the garbage and indeed the astral itself, a garbage-sourced replica of anything is always a distortion of the original, even though it will often subjectively appear to be identical because people receiving that sort of interference are sufficiently weakly grounded to be pretty gullible and unable to hold their experiences up to proper scrutiny — and in any case as they have no means of knowing that X was 'hearing', they'd have no means to check as to how similar what they 'heard' was to what X was 'hearing'. — Confused?!

On the other hand, I think it's much more likely that at least for the most part nobody around X would be imagining they're hearing X's 'voices' at all, but what would be happening is that a very common and seriously troublesome garbage-mediated two-way interaction is occurring between those people and X, which may quite possibly involve the garbage causing X and maybe others around him to create elementals. Such situations can seem desperate and intractable, and are more or less never resolved by moving to a different neighbourhood.

What X needs to do is, first and most crucially, to use The Work or/and Grounding Point (preferably both) to dissolve all beliefs / illusory realities that he is carrying, in which anyone around him, anywhere, can either hear his 'voices' or be aware of any other garbage interferences that he is getting — and also any beliefs / illusory realities in which anyone around him genuinely has any sort of adverse or untoward outlook, attitude or intent towards him. When one 'zaps' such beliefs and illusory realities, the point of this is NOT to convince yourself that what appears to be happening isn't really happening.

It could well be that some people around X really do get the impression that they're hearing 'voices' that he is hearing, or otherwise think strange things are going on for him, and have, to put it politely, unhelpful attitudes to him because of how they're perceiving him and how the garbage is distorting those perceptions.

The Good News through all this is that if X uses those simple and greatly de-stressing procedures periodically, following the detailed instructions I give, he will almost certainly find that he very soon — even the very next day, though timing can vary — is wondering why the hell he'd been getting so wound up about all that. The reality is that those other people all hear what they hear and think what they think, and whatever that is, it's their own business and indeed presumably problem.

And he'd find himself more or less spontaneously drawing a line under how things have appeared to be and simply disregard those people and draw a firm boundary around himself for everyday situations where there's practical need to interact with any of them (i.e., in a straightforward, practical way). Strangely but quite predictably, as soon as he's in the process of dissolving his illusory realities that were both distorting his own perceptions and drawing distorted responses from other people, he'd find that over a short period of time at least for the most part they'd all mind their own business and become properly respectful towards him.

Let's remember that, regardless of any garbage involvement, if you feel that people have ridiculing attitudes towards you, you will tend to draw actual ridiculing responses from at least some of them, in addition to all the perfectly okay responses that you've been misinterpreting as ridiculing in some way. It's a sort of feedback loop, and feedback loops are the absolute core feature of all the garbage's mechanisms of interference and attack.

That's why my methodology is so effective when used with motivation and focus, for they're all potent in stalling and dissolving feedback loops and disabling / dissolving the means by which those loops get initiated and generated. Feedback loops are for practical purposes like bubbles or balloons. Prick one and it bursts or collapses.

As well as acting on the indications I've given above, in practical terms the first need of anyone in anything like X's situation, in order to get a proper grip on it, would be to read very carefully and methodically through Crisis emergency self-help — Life upturn the SMART way, whether or not they consider themselves to be in crisis, for on that page they will be taken through a practical crash course in getting into the essential grounded and practical mindset that would enable them to get the full benefit of my methods, and which for many people starts a considerable life turnaround even before they've started using the methods themselves.

How to handle the loss of a greatly loved pet or person

I had somebody write in to me wondering how to handle the considerable bereavement stress resulting from the death of his cat.

The answer to ALL bereavement stress / 'trauma' is to work on the basis that this is the result of a strong and extremely unhealthy / unhelpful emotional attachment to the lost person or animal or indeed object. As long as you fail to recognise this you'd get nowhere fast. So, your need is NOT to comfort yourself, NOR to dwell in your supposed bereavement and take significant time to grieve, but to simply to get to work on dissolving your attachment to that person / animal / object, and indeed to progressively dissolve your underlying tendency to get attached to anyone / anything in the first place.

The one genuinely useful thing about an attachment is that it's in effect pointing out to you an underlying issue of yours that you need to clear.

Part of the process is the use of The Work or/and Grounding Point to dissolve beliefs / illusory realities that you're carrying, which underlie your current attachments and your underlying tendency for attachment, and also to clear the emotional issues that you're carrying, using methods such as Self-Power Walking.

Virtually all of us carry or are connected to emotional stresses / traumas relating to such losses, even though most of us aren't aware that we're carrying them. They cause us an underlying feeling of loneliness, which we then feel driven to try to protect ourselves against by comforting ourselves with 'relationships' (actually attachments), whether they be with people, animals, or indeed objects. The need is ALWAYS to dissolve those attachments and become free.

Once we have dissolved the sense of need (always an illusory need) for any such attachment, then we're to a considerable extent free, and much happier than ever before. We can then get on with living properly, unhampered by cravings and urges to be constantly comforting or seeking means to comfort ourselves.

"But I want to properly respect the memory of the dead [person / animal]!"

Goodness me! If you were attached to him/her/it in life, that wasn't respecting him/her/it anyway, so, why such a performance about somebody / something that now doesn't exist any more? The greatest respect you could show to a now nonexistent person / animal is to get free of your attachment to your memory of him/her/it, draw a line under them, while recognising any good times you've had with them, and to become properly free, having drawn a line under what, and who, is past, and now living properly in the present. Simple as that! 

"But surely you're overlooking the need for love in our lives!"

Please carefully re-read the above paragraphs and also Love is not what nearly all people believe, and Understanding loneliness — The real practical solution — the latter dealing with addressing the emotional issues that underlie what the hugely vast majority of people mistake for 'love'. Genuine love isn't at all something you or anyone could need, for it's simply an aspect of your and everyone else's true nature; it's simply there like a nose, but more fundamental!

I understand that vows are harmful, but what then do I do about legal agreements?

Simple! Get your knickers tied up in knots of anguish about the intractable complexity of it all, then spend the rest of your life on tranquillizers!

Or, if you'd prefer to get grounded and practical instead…

If you sign such an agreement, how it affects you would depend on how you view it. So, the important thing is to have a clear practical understanding of what you're doing. Best to think of any legal agreement as being NOT a vow (which is a very internal thing, which can cause very serious problems indeed later on), but simply as a practical, non-internal agreement with an external agency, not with yourself, keeping fully aware that various possible future circumstances may require that agreement to be either broken or formally rescinded.

I don't at all mean to suggest any actual intention to break formal agreements, but, as I say, it's a matter of being practical and realistic about such situations and how an agreement can serve some sort of useful purpose or can be used as a rod with which to beat yourself even if you haven't actually made a vow out of it!

However, another angle on legal agreements is the good sense in being extremely circumspect about them, to understand that at least commonly the other party would be trying to impose upon you some unreasonable demand(s) / constraint(s), using the legal system simply as a means to impose control upon and extort money from ordinary, defenceless people. In other words, a legal agreement itself isn't only not genuinely about ethics (it's about control), but is all too often highly unethical in what its writers are seeking of you.

Sometimes, then, where you know you're having to sign a clearly unethical / unreasonable agreement, it would make best sense not to agonize about it but to sign it with a clear understanding that it's basically rubbish, and not for taking all that seriously (i.e., if you have no opportunity to ask the other party to amend it to make it more fair and reasonable).

A rational approach therefore doesn't involve getting tied up in an internal sense of personal obligation relating to a legal agreement. You intend to be reasonable yourself, and want the other party to be reasonable, yes? Well, at least in theory, you yourself can require them to be reasonable too when any issues arise, whether or not you've added that into the formal agreement!

If you feel uncomfortable about signing a particular agreement, then the first thing you need to do is use methods that I give on this site to dissolve the illusory realities you're carrying, in which you're under some sort of moral obligation to be more bound by the particular agreement than is reasonable in genuine rational terms!

What to do about a deceased parent interfering with his / her children

Somebody emailed me with the following (edited for clarity):

Subject: My daughter is a medium

I have a problem I need to address. My husband died in 2007 from cancer. He was an abusive man. Now I find my daughter has been talking to me like he used to with the abusive talk. How to get him out of her?

As usual, I have cause to point out yet again that the person has ignored the notes on my Contact page, which make it quite clear that I'm not a personal counsellor / advisor, and her need is to read up on my site to get a proper understanding of what's really going on in her case. In this case I'm answering her question here so that I needn't keep fielding such questions in future from other people.

For a start, no-one can get her father out of her because he isn't in her in the first place! However, clearly there is a serious issue that does need addressing, and it would be some sort of garbage interference. It would most likely be an elemental that the garbage has caused the mother or possibly daughter to unawarely create, which then, with garbage control, made the daughter mimic her father's abusive talk.

The first thing the mother here needs to do is to get sorting herself out. Until / unless she gets to work on that she has little chance of having any useful effect on her daughter. Wants and needs aren't at all the same thing! Although undoubtedly the father's abusive outlook and behaviour was the obvious BIG problem, almost certainly the mother is unawarely 'feeding' the daughter's issue as a result of her own issues not only caused / aggravated by the abusive father but also by the emotional issues she was already carrying, which led to her getting involved with such an abusive person in the first place.

The starting point that I recommend for the likes of her on my site, is Crisis emergency self-help — Life upturn the SMART way. That's true regardless of whether or not she feels to be in any sort of crisis. That page guides the reader through essential steps in arriving at the requisite healthy mindset and viewpoint on her situation, which would enable her then to follow the various links given on that page, leading to the actual methods for her to use in an ongoing fashion to progressively clear her issues and gain proper, rational understanding of her situation and the real needs of her daughter.

She also needs to take on board that her daughter needs to do likewise, for only the daughter herself can resolve her issues — but the catch is that she'd almost certainly be resistant to any idea of her doing so, at least until her mother has been using the methods on this site for quite a long time and undergone really significant positive changes that are observable to the daughter.

Those changes would be liable to have positive effects on the daughter, even without the mother doing anything specific to try to get the daughter to change (the latter approach would probably be counter-productive anyway).

How do I deal with frightening paranormal occurrences in my life?

Panic! Shit yourself! Sharpen a knife really well, then slash your wrists (or your throat)! Behead yourself, if you know how to do it yourself — beheading seems to have become rather fashionable lately! Throw yourself off a cliff! There are all sorts of wow options! — Got the picture?

Or, how about a little grounded rationality this time round?

Although I very deliberately and purposefully make light work and a joke of such situations, actually I do greatly empathize with people going through such seriously troubling times — having been through my own catalogue of 'horrors' some years ago. But one of the things I learnt from the latter was the need to get out of patterns of 'seriousness' and to take a step back and laugh at and about the crazy things and situations that befell me, seeing their silly-funny side all the time.

Anyway, to the point. Somebody wrote in as follows — being yet another one who disregards the notes on my Contact page, which make it quite clear that the sort of question she is asking aren't helpful (to anyone) because her need is to read up in the appropriate places on this site. She tried to excuse herself by writing I hope I'm not breaking any of your rules — which is a common ploy from various individuals to try to kid themselves that it's okay for them to write to me with questions, requests or other types of message that my Contact page notes indicate clearly to be unacceptable.

As usual, this is slightly edited for clarity and anonymity.

First, I used to not believe, but I'm opened to anything now. My husband is dying and he took a picture of me and there was a girl in the picture by me and I ask my husband, do you see her; he says YES. He has told me she is mischievous, young-looking but very old; she's watching. My question: she's here for what? Also, he lost a hat 15 years ago and then it was on the bed. There is more to the story. Any info would be good. If not I'm OK with that

Two particular points need making straightaway. First, the reported 'girl' is NOT real — she is illusory, even if she has been captured in a photo! There are rare occasions where particular individuals are so weakly grounded that the garbage can cause them to unawarely create an elemental that can then, as a great rarity, cause apparitions that particular individuals can see and, as a particular rarity, even photograph.

As for that hat, if it really did become physically present on the dying man's bed — i.e., not just appearing briefly as an illusory apparition — that's a particularly harmful type of occurrence because it violates the integrity of 'What Is', and too many of such occurrences could theoretically at some point cause a calamitous breakdown of 'What Is' throughout all of 'Existence'.

Secondly, any paranormal occurrences of any kind — if indeed they're paranormal at all — are a clear sign of a major issue (or rather, whole package of them) that needs addressing and resolving as soon and as quickly as can be managed. Anyone experiencing the sort of thing reported in the above message is in BIG trouble and does definitely need to take radical action to address the situation.

However, that appraisal does NOT mean that there's anything to get frightened or panicky about! Things are simply as they are. The need is to get a proper understanding of the true nature of what's happening, then to apply the requisite measures (yes, oneself!) actually to get dissolving (yes, positively dissolving!) the issues.

And when we get looking at what's really going on, we come to understand that the sordid details of each person's weird experiences are NOT IMPORTANT — impossible though that may seem at first! The underlying mechanisms of such troublesome and harmful phenomena are actually few and remarkably easy to address once you start grasping the true, illusory nature of the phenomena and the actually simple mechanisms that cause those phenomena.

I'm not going to expand further about that here, but simply point to Crisis emergency self-help — Life upturn the SMART way as the essential starting point for anyone with such issues. That will lead them, if indeed they're willing, to the simple and joyful means to turn their lives around and to clear out the shit that the sweet little garbage has been giving them in their lives so far.

How do you explain people having prophetic dreams / intuitions, in relation to what you've already written about strange synchronicities?

 This is an area in which it's particularly apparent that we can't really know / understand what's going on. So it's particularly important that we keep it clearly in mind that we're making working assumptions that prove optimally helpful, rather than statements of what is or even might be true or false.

Yes, it does appear that some people have such experiences, and that therefore it must mean that deeper consciousness knows exactly when various (perhaps all) future events will occur. But, is that really true? It's very easy to say such things, but if you stop and really think about us and the nature of reality as far as I've been able to make a genuinely helpful working model of it, does it really add up? — If not, then we need to let go of some preconceptions to start making sense of it all.

In Crisis emergency self-help — Life upturn the SMART way I've previously written about some strange synchronicities in my own life, and point to a healthy outlook upon such events. Actually, exactly the same approach needs to be applied to any sort of apparently prophetic experience, even though it can appear to be compellingly correct and significant.

Let's consider some points about prophetic experiences.

• They, or at least many of them, can be seen as time-displaced synchronicities. Because of the time-displacement they appear to be a different sort of phenomenon to synchronicities, but actually there's nothing specific about them, apart from the different subjective quality of such experiences, to indicate that they're fundamentally different, at least from a healing perspective.

• As with straightforward synchronicities, one's subjective impression of them is generally quite irrational. If you stop and think carefully about the matter, you'd realize that there would be great and indeed usually 'astronomical' odds against each such event happening. Think about this: what were the odds against you being the person who you've turned out to be, born where and when you were born? — And so on.

  The point is that generally all manner of events at any point in space / time have happened against apparently 'astronomical' odds! — Yet the fact is that the various events did happen, and were all part of the normal running of our universe, or 'Existence', if you like. It becomes immediately a pointless exercise therefore to attach great significance to what are really just everyday events, because we simply can't know of at least almost all of the cause-effect relationships that brought things together in the ways they actually did.

  Now, a few decades ago I had a dream that finished with an aeroplane just missing the top of Exeter Cathedral and crashing just out-of-sight beyond, and the following day an aeroplane crash somewhere not all that far away in this country hit our headlines. Many people would take an experience like that as 'obviously' prophetic.

  Yet, just out of sheer randomness such synchronicities, whether exact or not, or time-displaced or not, will and do occur — and each time at least some people are liable immediately to assume that the person who had the particular dream or other 'predictive' experience was really tapping or channelling genuine predictive information. Yet what they generally forget is that billions of other people did NOT have experiences that could be taken as predicting the particular events!

  In reality, out of ordinary randomness, here and there somebody would get such an apparently predictive experience without anything supernatural / metaphysical being involved apart from the very nature of consciousness itself.

• A small minority of people report what they take to be genuine predictive experiences because they 'saw' or were occultly told of various details of the predicted event, such as date and time, location, and sometimes certain descriptive elements, and these appeared to correspond with the details of an event that happened just where and when their 'prophesy' / 'prediction' indicated.

  On the face of it these are the difficult ones to disregard. Does deeper consciousness, then, really know such details in advance? That isn't in my working model, so does this mean that we need to modify the working model to take account of such happenings, or even tear it right up and start again with a new working model?

  Or, would it be the garbage trying to run the show and read hidden information of future events from deeper levels of our own consciousness, then relaying bits of it to the respective people's ordinary minds to lead us into various problems?

It's really the third point here that needs more focused scrutiny, to ensure that we have the most healthy and safe outlook and responses to such happenings. So, let's look at the details and see what makes the most helpful sense for us.

First — how does it come that some underlying presence or influence would know fairly exactly what will happen in the future? My understanding of the deepest, most universal levels of consciousness is that knowing such details as people report in 'prophesy' experiences would be impossible, not least because of the non-dual nature of the deepest levels.

More superficial levels (i.e., more dualistic) are all a vast 'machinery' (figuratively speaking) in which everything that is happening is probabilistic in nature — the following-through of fluid matrices of cause and effect. Nothing could be genuinely predicted without it actually happening. Indeed, the whole point of incarnated experience is exploration and finding things out.

For any source to start genuinely predicting events that haven't happened yet, except on the basis of a probabilistic extrapolation (which would necessarily often be wrong), would subvert the whole point of our life experience.

So, regardless of the genuineness or otherwise of the various reported occurrences of accurate predictions that aren't just worked out from physical extrapolation (such as our weather forecasts), we need to regard any such occurrences as potentially seriously harmful because they, like 'magic', would be a violation of 'What Is' — and more than a certain amount of that going on and absorbing our attention could theoretically lead to a calamitous breakdown of 'What Is' into some sort of chaotic hellish maelstrom. Surely you'd want to turn away from that sort of thing!

The most practical and safe approach, as with standard synchronicities is to recognise such events as having happened, but not to accept any interpretation of them as correct or even possibly so, but instead to regard them as indications of something possibly untoward going on, which we need to step back from and help not to happen any more.

Because the garbage has repeatedly demonstrated to me its fixation on giving people supposed predictions (albeit usually with less precise details than what I'm focusing on here), the vast majority of which are at least to a fair extent wrong, I find it fully compatible with my working model, that the garbage would be looking out for various of the probabilistic / cause-effect threads that deeper consciousness is observing, which do point to certain likelihoods and even occasionally more precise details.

But without sweet little garbage interfering, no level of consciousness would be seeking to make predictions beyond observing overall patterns that may indicate action that we need to take to avoid various troubles / disasters.

My speculative hypothesis, which keys in with my overall working model rather than requiring obvious modification of it, is that the garbage, as it's constantly doing in all sorts of other areas of our experience, is simply building up 'story' in the minds of particularly weakly-grounded individuals, based on what consciousness is observing going on within itself.

In its virus-like manner, it hijacks aspects of the person's more or less conscious 'mind' to make it 'crystallize' certain of those observations into actual detailed predictions, which occasionally can have sufficient correspondence with an actual event that it's taken to be a really accurate prediction.

Of course, it's also possible that the garbage may in some cases actually interfere with particular people to ensure that some 'prophesied' event actually does take place, with as many corresponding features as it can manage. My inner inquiry on this suggests that it's very limited as to what it can achieve in that respect, though it is indeed generally attempting to do this. Perhaps here and there it really does succeed, but I have no support for any assumption that it definitely does.

Also, we need to remember that correspondences are 'news', while non-correspondences are generally ignored. Thus many or indeed probably all of such reported incidents, if they and their predictions were examined carefully, would show much less correspondence and signs of authenticity than even the involved parties believe — though of course in practice that couldn't readily be proved and so has to remain in the realms of 'most helpful speculation' (awaiting falsification testing) rather than an opinion.

Anyway, the need in all cases of apparent occultly sourced prophesy / prediction experiences is for the involved parties to recognise their experiences as representing a type of garbage interference of particularly harmful nature, and to get using methods such as I present on this site to get their awareness much better grounded and to progressively clear themselves of garbage interferences — of all types, and NOT to pay further attention to even the most amazing apparent prophesy event. Does paying them attention benefit you? — Nope, it just helps load you with most unhelpful 'story'!

Once again, I recommend Crisis emergency self-help — Life upturn the SMART way to all involved people as their most useful and practical starting point on this site for them to begin addressing their issue(s), regardless of whether or not they regard themselves as being 'in crisis'.

One extremely helpful way of weakening any tendency for apparent prophesy experiences to be some part of your life, either directly or indirectly, is to do what I myself am doing here and think of those experiences as being apparent prophesy experiences, rather than actual ones. That makes best sense, for, without the 'apparent' epithet, thinking of them as definitely 'actual' or 'real' would be reinforcing the tendency for such untoward events to continue polluting your life experience.

Let's remember, one point that makes a nonsense of the whole arena of supposedly genuinely knowing the future, is that the future isn't something that actually exists! It's just a mental construct to put a fig leaf over our inability to be at ease with a great unknowable apparently bang right in front of us every moment of our lives!

— Enjoy the rest of your day!

Can parasitic lost souls be saved?

When a person asks me such a question, that generally informs me that the person asking that question needs to be getting much more focused on his / her own self-healing / self-actualization process. In this particular case, as is made pretty clear by what I have to say about parasitic lost souls in The true nature of 'the forces of darkness' and its interference and attacks, the answer would be a clear 'no', at least in the sense that people usually mean.

The need for each human consciousness trapped as a 'parasitic lost soul' is actually to die properly (i.e., get shot of its layers of programming — the soul) and revert to fundamental consciousness.

There is, however, one, and as far as I can see, only one, way in which those of us with attached parasitic lost souls could potentially enable those to die as they need to — and that's simply by proceeding diligently and fully in our own self-actualization process, including clearing out all the emotional issues we're carrying.

As I understand it, doing the latter in particular gradually dissipates the layers of emotional trauma that belong to one's attached parasitic lost souls, so that it's likely that they aren't simply cast off eventually but are then actually able to die properly, so that those consciousnesses would then be able to incarnate again, and properly so, as no-soul people.

Because neither I nor anyone else could ever verify that hypothesis, it needs to be regarded simply as 'meaningful / potentially helpful speculation' rather than anything close to a statement of fact.

Could the garbage be a source of personal information leaks?

Somebody wrote in asking me that question, and actually it's something I myself have considered at various times. And indeed, because the garbage is the mediator in clairvoyance and channelling, it's a valid question as to what extent any person with malicious intent and channelling or clairvoyance capability could 'read' any amount of sensitive personal information such as credit card PIN, bank account details, and so on, and empty their bank accounts, or could go causing trouble for people through making public various aspects of individuals' private lives or at least blackmailing them with a threat of that.

Let's say for starters that, at NO time, including while my awareness was seriously ungrounded (from late October 2003 to April 2007) and I was having all sorts of psychic perceptions, did I ever attempt to 'read' such things, experimentally or otherwise — BUT I did get channelled 'readings' of what was supposedly going on for particular individuals, either for 'healing' purposes or to gain supposed information about any important past-life connections with me that they had — and it became abundantly, overwhelmingly clear that what I was getting was extremely harmful RUBBISH!

Yes, there were no doubt bits of truth here and there, but overall it was just insidiously convincing-sounding 'story' clearly designed to mislead me and cause me and the other individuals very major problems.

Theoretically, if the garbage were really a genuine intelligent conscious being or beings, then it or they could sometimes decide to work with some criminal or would-be criminal by passing on private information verbatim for that criminal to use.

In reality, I haven't once yet been aware of any clear instance of this — which greatly underlines the warnings that I give about channelling and clairvoyance and indeed all other supposed psychic perceptions.

It also underlines my conclusion that the garbage is just programming and not in itself conscious. As far as I've ascertained so far, the garbage transmits genuinely correct pieces of data only erratically, and even when it does so, it's always in a context that's aimed to mislead in some way or other and cause problems. Indeed, to what extent any apparently correct data is genuine or is simply fortuitously correct is a very moot point.

Generally mediums / channels / clairvoyants and indeed their clients (for whom, read unfortunate victims) pick up on the inevitable apparent correlations of some details in the channelled or clairvoyantly obtained 'information' and fondly imagine that the process really works, whereas generally they're ignoring all the non-correlations, so really they're all being extremely gullible and letting the garbage run rings around them.

Now, if the garbage did actually transmit somebody's credit card number and PIN to a criminal, actually that criminal would have no means to know if that were correct, and actually more often than not it wouldn't be so. Thus generally speaking, the criminal would quickly give up on such a supposed information source, or would let him/herself get embroiled in some big story from the garbage and then most likely end up being guided to do various depraved and harmful things that get him / her landed in jail or a secure psychiatric hospital.

If the garbage really does pass on to anyone a really significant proportion of people's private personal details, I think that would have become very evident, and indeed it would have been cause of an ongoing chaos, with inability of developed civilizations to continue functioning or even develop all that much in the first place! As I say, I've never been aware of any evidence of this happening.

And because of my high and very challenging public profile on this website, getting myself widely and seriously in the 'bad books' of many, many people whose beliefs and cherished traditions I cut straight through to point to what's really going on, I'd have thought that masses of people with supposed psychic powers would have been trying to upset my apple cart by 'reading' for example the username / password for each of my websites and then thoroughly hacking them, or indeed 'reading' my financial security details so they could empty my financial reserves and so bankrupt me — but so far there has been no sign of any such thing happening.

Just the odd psychic attack attempt has occurred, and even those can't work upon me, at least significantly, because I don't carry the illusory realities in which those attacks could operate.

Likewise, generally speaking, people using 'special powers' to 'do magic' of some sort generally have greatly exaggerated ideas of its effectiveness (in much the same way that 'healers' tremendously overrate their supposed healing abilities), because they ignore all the times it doesn't work, and tend to just blindly assume that it's working, without trying to find out to what extent it really is doing so.

So, in a nutshell, the garbage is the garbage, and everything it communicates is garbage and lacks genuine worth for anyone apart from those who trade upon people's gullibility and sell them harmful if alluring stories about themselves!

Of course, the garbage is indirectly the primary underlying cause of most if not all leaks of private personal data, in that it motivates people to behave in such untoward ways as harmful computer hacking, financial fraud and so forth — though somehow I don't think this is what the headline question here is referring to!

What are your thoughts on yogic breath work?

To me that's a rather funny question, seeing that some of the practices I give on this site involve what I'd call yogic breathing (for want of a more helpful term). That is, breathing in a manner that's synchronized with particular body movements or otherwise used in what 'healers' and people into 'spirituality' generally would regard as a sort of combined body / 'energy' work on oneself.

I can understand that people who've been much involved in various yogic disciplines would have at least quizzical attitudes to what I'm sometimes calling 'yogic' in my own methods, because I dismiss the notion of non-physical or metaphysical 'energy', because to my understanding that's illusory in the first place and is part of the garbage's seeking to get us (more) inveigled into harmful illusory realities.

However, I'm not dismissing the physical aspect of yogic methods in themselves; the problem is the beliefs and illusory realities that are normally part and parcel of all the traditional forms of 'yoga'. Like a mudra (a hand configuration that's part of a healing or self actualization practice), yogic methods are more or less neutral in themselves — neither particularly beneficial nor harmful outside the physical aspect of 'reality', though in some cases particular physical asanas (held positions) or movements would be intrinsically physically beneficial or harmful.

Their primary effectiveness, then, for the benefit or/and harm of one's whole being, is through how one uses them mentally. Traditionally they're tied up with a whole mass of ungrounding illusory realities and whole belief systems within the actually harmful gamut of 'spirituality'.

So, when a person interested in using my methods asks if it would still be okay for them to continue using their regular Yoga as well (I guess usually some form of Hatha Yoga), I have to explain that quite a lot of that could be quite beneficial as a set of purely physical exercises, except that because of the difficulty they'd usually have in keeping those exercises clear of the 'spirituality' baggage that's very much part of that Yoga tradition, they'd do much better to make a clean break with it, as otherwise it would hinder or obstruct any genuine self-actualization process of theirs.

If they want to do various flexibility-cultivating physio exercises, there are plenty they can do without hanging on to harmful illusory realities and beliefs.

So, with regard to my own methods given on this site, I seek to make it clear that the important benefits of the practices arise from their being used in the context of particular deeply-sourced self-actualization intents — each method in one way or another helping to focus, connect and align one's conscious intent (in the 'mind') with the generally quite occluded much more powerful and effective deeply-sourced intent. Indeed, that's what my whole methodology is about.

There's no 'spirituality', nor mystique nor mumbo-jumbo about any of it; it's all about managing your own awareness in ways that simply push a figurative hole or tunnel through your normal blockages between your mind and your deepest aspects, so that the latter can bring you forward much more effectively in a genuine self-actualization process and progressive clearance of garbage interferences and attacks.

All the practices need to be carried out with a clear intent for them to be grounding, not ungrounding, keeping attention on one's physical surroundings, one's physical state, one's positive intent, and the practicalities of each practice as one executes it — while still being aware of oneself as the undefinable 'something' that is peaceful observer of all that one is experiencing.

I appreciate that some people who get interested in this site and are feeling reluctant to make a clean break from perhaps decades of regular Yoga involvement, would be wanting to keep their Yoga going while using my methods. The reality, though, is that, generally speaking, their Yoga would have become a comforting attachment or indeed addiction for them, helping to make them resistant to the deep and major changes that a genuine self-actualization process would bring them.

For this reason it really is hard cheese for them, for indeed they will need to let go of what's seemed to be such a comforting friend for them over the years. Otherwise, the effectiveness of my methods would be greatly impaired if not more or less completely blocked — because their intent wouldn't and couldn't be properly focused, as is central to my whole methodology.

It's thus greatly helpful to recognise that 'hard cheese' as being a much greater genuine friend than your long-standing Yoga attachment ever could have been! Welcome to rationality and common sense in place of years of illusory realities and self-deception!

Do I need to do anything about my tendency to have conversations with other people in my mind?

Somebody emailed me as follows:

May I ask on your opinion about having conversations with different types of people in our minds? Sometimes I have conversations or even debates with people in my head and I assumed this to be beneficial in terms of pre-planning having actual conversations with such people or being prepared to be able to defend myself in terms of certain arguments and sometimes in my mind I twist the conversations to gain approval from people.
 
But I'm not sure whether this is actually beneficial or healthy or should be treated in the same way as completely un-beneficial influences or entities since those persons in our minds have at least references in physical reality and the latter don't have such reference.
 
Do you think it's normal to do such a thing or even beneficial?

This one elicits from me a distinct empathetic chuckle. I'm sure the guy is NOT referring here to any sort of 'hearing voices' phenomenon, but to a rehearsing or fantasizing of particular interpersonal interactions. I myself used to be doing it a lot of the time. Typically it was either just wish-fulfilment fantasies or it was me anxiously trying to work out how best to handle a forthcoming actual or likely interaction with a particular person or group or category of person / group over some particular issue.

My own experience suggests that this isn't at all a special phenomenon that requires special understanding. Basically it's just a dramatized 'face' of deliberate conscious thinking-through (/around) particular issues.

Like deliberate conscious thinking in general, most of us tend to do it compulsively, so it then tends to be a hindrance to the main working-out and learning process that occurs well below the conscious level, and it needlessly uses up mental / awareness resources because the inner dialogues or rehearsed scenes are the focus of one's attention instead of one's surroundings and immediately current everyday experiences and issues.

It's NOT that there's anything wrong with such deliberate conscious thinking in itself, and in reasonably small measure it really is part of our arsenal of means to figure things out — but it does need to be used appropriately and let go for the rest of the time.

So, all the spirituality-heads and meditation freaks who believe that conceptual thinking is bad, bad, bad and we need to stop it altogether and drift through life riding on our 'intuition machine' are plain wrong and living an extremely harmful fiction, which latter of course has come directly or indirectly from the garbage. We need all the time a dynamic balance between different modes of mental function if we're to make the most of our life experience and self-actualization process.

So, you focus on deliberate conscious thinking in any of its forms just for as long as it's being genuinely useful, then allow it to fade back into the background. And when you get intuitions it's crucially important to bring your conscious thinking to the fore to hold each intuition up to scrutiny and consider carefully whether it really 'adds up' as something useful, or indeed is just another bit of garbage interference kindly given to you to lead (or keep) you off-course and at least ultimately into serious trouble.

As you advance in a genuine self-actualization process, the compulsive element in your thinking processes progressively weakens. It's a mistake to try to stop it. Just be aware of it going on and on, while putting your attention instead onto other things except when there's some very specific reason to consciously work something out — but don't spend a lot of time on it, particularly when it's going round in repeat or minor variation loops.

Trust your deeper aspects to work things out more fully, in a much more flexible manner than you can achieve only with the conscious thinking. Then you're more ready to spontaneously produce a unique and appropriate response to the uniqueness of each situation that presents itself, instead of being fixated on responding just in a specific way you'd consciously rehearsed in your mind.

That sort of functioning is in the very essence of our intrinsic rationality.

If the garbage was trying to destroy you, why didn't it get somebody to kill you by physical means?

That's a significant point. Why in the name of Winnie-the-Pooh didn't it do so??! That had me superficially mystified for years — yet it all at least broadly started making sense for me in 2007 once I'd dropped the toxic notion that what was interfering with and attacking me was actual conscious beings, and I'd experimentally started living with a working assumption that that whole troublesome show was really just complexes of thought forms — programming in 'thought energy'.

I discuss this matter further in Psychiatry: my personal experience — Gaining fundamental insights — Part 2, to which I refer you.

Could you invent a procedure to use with the other ones to minimize the risk of incarnating again?

That really is a funny one, which tells me volumes about the particular questioner's worries / anxieties that need to be cleared!

I did get confirmation from the questioner that she meant any incarnation, not just soul reincarnation. So, it would appear that because she'd been having rough times in this lifetime — though much mitigated nowadays by her ongoing use of my methods — she was simply wishing never to incarnate again!

My aim here isn't at all to poke fun at a decent individual who is doing the best she knows how to further her self-actualization process, and has made big strides in clearing major troubles she'd been having, but to point to yet another way one can so easily get pointing oneself off-course, often using distorted partial understanding of things in my writings, effectively as a means of self-sabotage.

Now, where in the name of Mickey Mouse the Mighty have I written or indeed implied that we need to avoid reincarnating?

Yes, I've pointed to the need to die properly, but that is not for the sake of never incarnating again, but simply to ensure that one doesn't get trapped (or retained) in a cycle of successive soul reincarnations — the dysfunctional and seriously troublesome journey of progressive degradation that the garbage has programmed the hugely vast majority of people for.

It's in the very nature of consciousness that it's constantly experiencing dualistic, incarnated experience. Consciousness itself has no meaning or point without such dualistic expression.

So, whether you in your current incarnation like it or not, you will presumably reincarnate at some point, even if you've managed to avoid getting diverted by the garbage into the troublesome soul reincarnation cycle. However, as a no-soul person you'd have tremendous potential to enjoy life and to be a positive influence for others all around, in ways and such an extent as is denied in at least some degree from people with soul programming.

I myself don't at all relish the thought of having yet again to go through all the hell experiences and other garbage shenanigans and all the social isolation from the ubiquitous 'sheep' all around me that I had this time round! — But I recognise that all I can do about that is to continue my self-actualization process as effectively as possible, and to enable as many other people as possible also to be doing that, AND to do what I sensibly can towards dissolution of the garbage itself so that, at least notionally, neither I nor anyone else need suffer such things again in future lifetimes.

However, because no-soul reincarnation is supposed to be non-sequential, at least as compared with soul reincarnation, I have no way of knowing for sure whether all future incarnations of mine or anyone else would benefit from apparent garbage dissolution, say, within the next ten years as perceived within this incarnation of mine!

In other words, just how things would work out after this lifetime is just unknowable, and it's important to face the future without wishes to go permanently out of physical existence, never incarnating again. To be harbouring such a wish or aspiration is effectively a self-sabotaging tactic, which makes it more likely that the underlying anxieties would be exploited by the garbage at death time so that you do actually get diverted into the degradational cycle of soul reincarnation.

The need, then, is to use methods such as I give on this site, to clear all worries / anxieties that one is harbouring, relating to what would happen to you beyond your death this time round. This is particularly important because as long as you're wishing / intending never to reincarnate, you're at odds with your own deeply-sourced intent and are thus in a state of fundamental inner conflict.

Because my methods depend on alignment of conscious intent with one's most deeply-sourced intent, you need to clear yourself of such conflicting conscious wishes / intents before my methods can work really effectively for you.

Shouldn't people be warned about the popular focus on ASMR?

Yes, definitely (though I'd replace Shouldn't… with something like Isn't there a need for…) — except that it would be unhelpfully misleading of me to single that out for special attention, because it would take focus away from the crucially important more general principle about how we need to respond to any physical or emotional feelings / sensations at all, that seem to us to be pleasurable or fascinating / intriguing.

Somebody wrote in to me asking about this, having noted that I hadn't written about ASMR ('autonomous sensory meridian response') on this site. It's actually a term I didn't know, and it refers to a particular tingly feeling, very familiar to me, that we get typically in response to particular emotional stimuli.

Typical of most people's self-harming programmed compulsion to home in on and try to keep experiencing a sensation / feeling that seems pleasurable in some way, it appears that it's nowadays a quite popular fad, to use various means to keep experiencing ASMR, using a range of ill-based 'justifications' of course — for all the good that would do anyone. So, you get yourself yet another addiction, and thoroughly train yourself to ignore important messages that your deeper aspects are seeking to draw to your attention by means of that sensation.

In my own experience, that tingly feeling has always been triggered by some emotional stimulus that would be greatly helpful for me to be aware of and properly understand.* It's saying to me in effect Hey, there's something really significant behind this. Let's investigate when I can find a handle to get into that with…. Unsurprisingly, my inner inquiry points to that being the whole point of that sensation for anyone. Okay, the vast majority, being soul-programmed 'sheep', wouldn't get their heads around such a notion, for in their view anything pleasant-feeling is for holding onto and repeating whenever they like, regardless of any cost of their behaving in such unaware and foolish ways.

On the other hand, if you wish to do yourself a tremendous favour you would NEVER seek out ASMR or indeed any other sensation, and instead would pay proper attention to the significance of ANY pleasant or intriguing sensation / feeling when it arises in the course of your everyday life. In that way you'd become more aware and thus more open to your own self-actualization and emotional clearance process, and the deeper understandings obtained that way would enrich the life experience in ways that addictive behaviours are intrinsically set to obstruct and destroy.

Note that I'm not at all saying that we need to avoid triggering or experiencing ASMR, but simply that it gets insidiously harmful when we seek to add further such experiences, on account of their 'decoy' effect (the little boy repeatedly crying 'Wolf!') as well as all the other downsides of any addictive behaviour.