Contact me (self-triage page!)

(I live in Exeter, U.K.)

Preliminary Notes

Please read these in full before contacting me — thank you.
If you don't do so, you will most likely be wasting your time in trying to contact me.
I'm really sorry this is such a long screed, but experience has shown it to be necessary.

Beware of the Philip!
Watch out — he's no-one's fool, at least for long!

• Are you seeking advice or ‘help’ regarding any ‘difficult’ personal situation? — If so, if you haven't already read it (thoroughly), please now read carefully and thoroughly Crisis emergency self-help — Life upturn the SMART way, no matter whether or not you consider yourself to be actually ‘in crisis’, and methodically take up the various measures, including changes in outlook and perception, that I recommend there.

  It's little or no good just reading that page, in a mentally passive way. It's your core guide to your actively resolving your issues yourself. So, it's crucially important that you regard it as a sort of instruction manual, every bit of which is to be put into practice, and NOT as just an interesting or useful read!

  If you're seeking such advice / help because you've been using my methods in an attempt to clear a particular issue and you still have that issue, please note that I'm not an expert on clearing each person's specific issues, and it's no use asking me to give such advice.

  If you can't get my methods to work for you, then you have the choice of (a) giving up (— Really?!), (b) looking out there in the ‘jungle’ for alternative methods / methodologies (— Harmful to Bloody Dangerous!), or (c), much more usefully, of maintaining a clear intent that my methods will work for you, and doing the necessary reading on this site, with experimentation as appropriate, to enable you to establish why your attempts with my methods appear to have been ineffective for you so far, and how you could be more effective in their use from now on.

  That would include getting a better understanding of what the garbage* really is, how it operates, and how my methods work to clear you of its interferences / attacks. Also, if you learn to use Helpfulness Testing, you yourself can find out what are the best choices specifically for you.

  Strictly speaking, I'm assuming that the garbage is dissolved now, but people are currently still being affected by ingrained patterns of brain function that mimic direct garbage activity. Thankfully the methods given on this site for progressively clearing oneself of direct interferences also work much the same for the patterns mimicking the garbage.

  Most instances of my methods appearing to be ineffective come down to the person using the methods ‘at half-cock’ — in other words, without sufficient awareness or understanding of what they're doing or need to be doing, generally because of preconceived notions that they're carrying (e.g., still regarding ‘entities’ and other illusory phenomena that the garbage gives them as ‘real’, or / and not having a clear understanding of self-actualization and what it involves).

  Also, trying to address a specific issue without applying an overall balanced self-actualization methodology and process would be of limited effectiveness — so it's little use, for example, just using my Grounding Point method to try to clear a particular issue. You need to take your emphasis off the specific issue and work from a properly comprehensive and balanced self-actualization perspective.

  I can't sort out such issues for people individually, so please don't burden me with your difficulties; the need is for you to find your own way, using the abundance of relevant information that I give on this site.

• I've removed my telephone number from this site, and so all initial contacts will have to be by my email contact form via the link further below. In appropriate cases I will give my telephone number by email. However, please note that I do NOT generally give telephone consultations, for reasons that will become apparent as you read further below.

  N.B. I made this change NOT because I don't want anyone calling me — I actually really welcomed the occasional friendly calls — but as a protection from people who seek to get free consultations from me and in the odd cases regard me as a crisis counsellor or even a full crisis service including crisis accommodation (all free of course)!

  It's also a certain degree of protection against the energy drain of receiving argumentative or downright abusive calls from people who disagree with what's on this website, or at least are convinced that they know better than me about what I've written about, and that I should bow to the ‘wisdom’ of their held opinions.

• I'm on Skype, but removed my Skype ID from here because the result (inappropriate and time-wasting calls and instant messages) was too disruptive to my work. At an early stage I configured my Skype account for calls and instant messages from ‘contacts only’. In appropriate cases I shall give my Skype ID after initial email contact, and (usually temporarily) put the particular people on my Skype contact list so that they can call me.

I'd like to be able to say I answer all non-spam emails that come from my contact form here, and indeed I do greatly welcome genuinely friendly contacts when they come. Unfortunately most people who've written in so far over many years have done so with some sort of highly problematical and even troublesome agenda — many of them consciously having no idea that they're trying to interfere in my life and indeed in some cases really to disrupt it. In order that I may get on with my own life in a healthy and balanced way, I have no sensible option but simply not to answer such emails, or, in certain cases, to send the particular individuals packing with a flea in their ear.

A good start for any message to me is to use your true name — first and last names.
If you hide behind a synonym or a partial name such as Peter X or Steve, Australia, I know you're to some extent in hiding for some reason, and that will reflect something of the degree of genuineness or otherwise of your message, and the likelihood that you're coming to me with a supposedly hidden unhelpful agenda.

I list further below the various proscriptions of mine that I can think of at the moment. For the most part messages in any of the categories indicated in that list won't be answered.

People who seek to cover up their real purpose — for example, by making out that they're just seeking my friendship when actually they've got some sort of personal status or control agenda to try to foist on me — get very short shrift when I do (very soon) spot what they're really up to.

Incidentally, when somebody tells me when they write in, I have absolutely no agenda… or something like I do hope you won't feel that I have some kind of agenda, I'm 100% genuine or I'm not trying to influence you…, what that tells me is that the person actually has a very pronounced agenda to foist on me, whether or not they're aware of it. Somebody who is truly with no agenda to play out on me wouldn't be motivated to say such things. A similar give-away is somebody telling me something like I'm not attacking [/criticising] you. Invariably such people are either attacking / criticising me or they're intending to do so. Similarly, for I don't mean [/wish] to argue with you, read I think you're wrong, so please listen to me…

Another old chestnut is I see [or, I understand] where you're coming from… or I hear what you're saying. What either of those tells me is that the person does not genuinely understand what I'm on about, and holds some disagreeing opinion / belief, which would actually be just time-wasting for me. So, if you feel moved to tell me that you see or understand where I'm coming from or hear what I'm saying, then you might as well close this page, and, frankly, piss off, because I'm not interested in what you have to say, and you're unlikely to gain anything really worthwhile from this site!

Another sign to me that somebody is trying to run some sort of agenda on me is where that person addresses me as Phil (i.e., rather than ‘Philip’). While in everyday life it makes little or no odds whether anyone calls me Philip or Phil, I'm finding that when people who don't already know me very well email me, addressing me as Phil, something is always amiss. That's not because there's anything wrong with calling me Phil, but because some problematical agenda of the person motivates him/her to call me Phil, actually as an affectation of familiarity where none genuinely exists at the present time.

I strongly recommend to such people that they don't try to ‘cover up’ if they feel motivated to address me as Phil, but simply not to contact me for the moment and to look closely and awarely at their motivations in wanting to contact me. Similarly, a subject line that pretends to be enthusiastically friendly, just saying ‘Hi!’ or ‘Hey there!" alerts me at once to a problematical agenda even before I peek at the message body at all — except that I may well not see it at all, because messages with that sort of subject line get flagged for deletion by MailWasher.

If you're wanting to write to me to tell me that you came to this site very recently (e.g., within the last few days) and upon reading some of my writings you were immediately prompted to go making sweeping dramatic changes in your life as a result, I salute your openness to genuine positive life change, but ask you to please first read the caution that I give to all such people, and it would be most helpful for you and indeed me if you held off from writing to me until things have settled down more for you. In most cases that would mean, to give it at least a month or two, and then see if you still have cause to contact me.

Please note that if a question is asked of me, or people give some sort of account of their personal shenanigans, I may quote that question or account verbatim, though anonymously, to respond to it publicly on one page or another on this site.

You ask me any question on this understanding, and it's not acceptable to complain because you didn't like a question of yours (perhaps a very personal one, but, as I say, being presented anonymously) having been presented and answered publicly.

It's important that as many people as possible benefit when I answer a question that's likely to be relevant to other people, and it's completely unfair on me to expect me to answer questions on a personal, individual basis only, so that I then have to answer the question all over again when somebody else asks the same thing. Sorry, I have to say this ad nauseam — I'm NOT a personal counselling / guidance service!

As a rarity the odd person reads the above note yet still writes in to me about something or other, asking me not to quote on this site anything from their message. I must emphasize that they've already been warned (see the previous paragraph), and I will NOT respect any such request, which in all cases would have been made on a nonsensical basis and aimed at interfering with and obstructing me in my aim to be of as much benefit as possible on this site to people generally. The real need of such individuals is NOT for me to protect them from uncomfortable feelings that they might experience, but for them to recognise their emotional issues involved and clear them. The methods for that are on this site, free for them to use.

Here now is my reluctant and unedifying list of proscriptions. Please do read it and indeed actually take it on board, because where appropriate I give links for one to follow to particular relevant pages on this site, as a much better alternative to contacting me…

• Messages that are not in English. However, you may be able to get by, by using an online translation facility such as the Google one. If you do try that, please make sure to tell me that you've done that, so that I'm on the lookout for likely translation errors, and thus could make better sense of what  you've written. But then please bear in mind that any response of mine is similarly liable to translation errors. It's important therefore to keep to short and simple sentences and to keep your message short.

• Asking me questions that are directly or indirectly answered on this site, or ‘curiosity’ questions (use the available navigation / search facilities to find the subject material that you're after, and please don't waste my time with questions asked out of curiosity!). Please see Why won't you answer the questions that I want to ask you?.

  

  There's too much to read and I want the answer quickly is NOT acceptable as a good reason for taking up my time to ask me something — that's just laziness, bearing in mind the actually very effective navigation and search facilities that I've provided. Please don't trouble me if you can't be bothered to read the relevant material on this site — and carefully so!
  If you have little English or, for example, sight impairment, please don't ask me to help you out by answering your questions or paraphrasing parts of this site — I'm only one man, with a life to live!

• Asking for my views on something, including any supposed views of mine on particular books and writings by other people. Generally speaking, I don't answer such approaches, particularly as virtually all such approaches carry some very unhelpful agenda. It's up to people to learn to work things out for themselves, and this site gives excellent means to do that. You can use the Google Search This Site facility at the bottom of nearly every page to find out what, if anything, I've written on a particular subject. Note particularly my presentation of Helpfulness Testing, by which means suitable people can, with great care and vigilance, get answers that they really need from none other than their own deepest aspects — actually the most pure and reliable source there is. Please also see Why won't you discuss your views with anyone? and Why won't you answer the questions that I want to ask you?.

• Recommending or asking for my views on a particular ‘healing’ device or ‘environmental stress eliminator [/ protector]’. Nowadays I don't recommend any at all. Most are harmful to very seriously harmful, while the most benign available are scam to what I charitably call semi-scam — the vendors pretty-well universally having their own bank balances at heart far more than the genuine well-being of their (would-be) customers.

• Asking or indeed crying out for help (including asking or telling me about a contemplated suicide attempt). While I greatly empathize with people going through hard times, I'm NOT an individual help or counselling service, and it's up to people to find what help they require on this site, and not to come to me expecting me to take over their responsibility for sorting out their problems. It's greatly helpful to train oneself in self-empowerment, and tremendously unhelpful to seek ‘help’ in lieu of that. Generally the best place on this site for such people to go initially is Crisis emergency self-help — Life upturn the SMART way or ‘Hearing voices’: how to stop them — The REAL self-help way! — making sure to follow up the relevant related links on the respective page.

• Asking for healings or entity removal. I do NOT give healings on request, and ‘entity’ removal from one person by another person simply doesn't work, because of the true nature of the ‘entities’. For this reason and more, I do NOT recommend any ‘healers’ or psychics to supposedly assist people in getting clear of supposed entity attachments or related problems. Indeed, such practitioners, at least as often as not, pass on to their clients (perhaps better regarded as victims!) further serious problems. The real need is to become a healer for oneself. This site presents all one needs for that purpose, apart from one's own will to turn one's life around — and, quite obviously, the latter can be provided only by oneself. I refer such people to ‘Dark force’ and entity troubles — The real way to clear them and Healing and self-actualization — The safest and quickest way, but the best starting place for most people new to this site would actually be Crisis emergency self-help — Life upturn the SMART way, even if they don't feel to be actually ‘in crisis’, though for some people ‘Hearing voices’: how to stop them — The REAL self-help way! would be the best starting point.

  N.B. Virtually all of what people assume to be ‘entities’ aren't entities at all, i.e., in the sense of conscious non-physical beings, but various types of garbage interference, often involving elementals. True conscious entities are really always non-incarnate human consciousnesses or fragments of currently alive people's consciousnesses, and, contrary to widespread belief, these don't speak to us nor manifest in ways that people would generally recognise as an ‘entity’, though in less easily recognisable ways they're widely a major component of the problems and issues that people are carrying.

  Although, to my best understanding, the garbage itself was dissolved early in 2022, its interferences continue for most people in a secondary form. Please see Underlying causes of human dysfunction now in past tense….

• Asking for name and contact details of a supposedly required type of ‘healer’ / therapist. Please note that I'm not a directory service of any sort, and I don't have such details even for my own area! Also, I'd not recommend ‘healers’ / therapists for people who enquire anyway, because the real answer is for people to get resolving their problems themselves, using the methods given on this site (please see the previous list item).

• Asking me for advice about becoming a healer. The place to look is "Am I a healer?" — Explaining ‘healing’ and the problems it causes, and one should be able to work out one's answers from that.

• Asking me to telephone them.

• Asking for advice on bizarre psychic / paranormal / emotional / ‘delusional’ phenomena, including psychic attacks from people or ‘entities’ and all manner of ‘entity’ interference such as sexual abuse, ‘entity’-controlled physical movements of one's body, apparitions, ‘voices’, poltergeists, near-death experiences (NDEs), weird visionary experiences and so forth. Please be aware that these things occur for quite a lot of people. They're NOT helpfully regarded as mental illness because they are actually various types of garbage interference and need addressing on that basis. The means to clear such issues are actually on this site. Again I refer such people to Crisis emergency self-help — Life upturn the SMART way as their most helpful starting point, regardless of whether or not they feel to be actually ‘in crisis’ (though in some cases ‘Hearing voices’: how to stop them — The REAL self-help way! would be the best starting point), and also ‘Dark force’ and entity troubles — The real way to clear them, and Healing and self-actualization — The safest and quickest way — both of which pages give the real ‘meat’ of the means for addressing their issues. Much explanation of the underlying cause of such phenomena is here for the reading in The true nature of ‘the forces of darkness’ and its interference and attacks.

• Asking me to do Helpfulness Testing checks on them to tell them things they want to know. It's up to people to learn to use Helpfulness Testing themselves, and not to attempt to pass aspects of their responsibility for their own self-determination onto anyone else.

• Seeking to tell me about or ‘share’ with me one's problems / weird experiences. Please understand that I'm not a listening service, and it would greatly harm me to operate as one, and it would take up time of mine that could be MUCH more helpfully applied elsewhere.
  Included in this category are people's attempts to share with me / involve me in their social or family life. Those aspects of most people's lives are generally replete with emotional issues that are being neither recognised nor addressed, and so when a person innocently writes to me about such things, or indeed sends me photos / videos of ‘friends and family’ and all that, what they're very definitely doing is dumping their problems on me — and in a manner that's particularly unhelpful for all concerned.
  Just to clarify a common misconception — I'm NOT interested in the details of a person's story of their ‘entity’ (actually almost always garbage) or psychic attack troubles, however bizarre, but I AM interested in hearing about the person's positive steps to get themselves clear of that situation. The reason for this is that the details of ‘entity’ / garbage / psychic attack problem stories are actually not important, and indeed are an unhelpful distraction, even for the involved person, because the actual healing solutions are simple and completely bypass all that ‘story’. Again I refer such people to ‘Hearing voices’: how to stop them — The REAL self-help way! or Crisis emergency self-help — Life upturn the SMART way for their most helpful starting point (whether or not they feel to be ‘in crisis’), and then ‘Dark force’ and entity troubles — The real way to clear them and Healing and self-actualization — The safest and quickest way.
  All the above, however, doesn't mean that I'd make an issue about your telling me in a nutshell about one or more particular problems of yours when you're introducing yourself, just so that I have some idea of your background and current situation. It becomes an issue for me when (usually) people are trying to involve me in the ‘story’ of their troubles, as a substitute for their actually pointing themselves to true healing and clearance work. I simply won't read such convoluted screeds.

• Seeking to ‘share / exchange one's thoughts / insights’ or their life story with me. This actually comes largely in the latter category, and also virtually invariably comes with an intrusive agenda that I can do without. I've no need whatsoever for people's unsolicited ‘thoughts’ or ‘insights’, nor justifications of their holding onto outlooks, beliefs or methods that I caution against on this site!

• Trying to use donations in any way to influence me. All donations are received (and greatly appreciated!) on the clear understanding that they are fully unconditional; I cannot be ‘bought’. A small proportion of donors appear to regard their donations as a ‘sweetener’ to get me then to accept their coming to me with questions and confusions, which they actually need to sort out themselves, as is made very clear in these notes. Indeed it has happened that a donor has tried to use his donating as a coercive tool to get me to take on his paranoid and anti-science/pseudo-science mindset. Anyone who tries that sort of thing on me gets very short shrift!

• Seeking friendships with me. that's simply not how genuine, healthy friendships arise. Also, I ignore unsolicited invitations for me to be a ‘friend’, ‘follower’ or ‘contact’ on social media such as Facebook and Twitter — with the exception that as I now have a Facebook account, in rare instances I may choose to accept a Facebook ‘friend’ offer; this would generally be where there's a strong shared interest / activity such as being a composer, naturalist or keen hiker / mountaineer, but would generally NOT be from people responding to this site. If you want to keep in touch with my Facebook presence, then you're fully welcome to ‘follow’ me there, rather than being a supposed ‘Friend’ (which has little or nothing to do with genuine friendship anyway)!

  A partial exception, as intimated in the prominent note in a panel at the start of this long and unedifying screed, is in the case of individuals who've first got to know me through direct physical encounters with a really positive exchange between us occurring at the time (please do refer back to that note). Generally I'd have given them one of my cards at that time, so they could use my email address or indeed call me, as appropriate. However, just seeking friendship, without any clear intent towards mutual reinforcement as no-soul people with a genuine intent to make more of the life experience would be a side-track that I wouldn't allow.

• Sending me unsolicited items of any kind. Like a charity donation request mailing containing a ‘free gift’, unsolicited items sent to me always come with a manipulative agenda of some sort or another, no matter what the sender's view of his / her own motivations. Any such items won't be acknowledged and will be discarded, no matter how ‘interesting’ the sender thinks they'd be for me, and no matter how valuable they may be. Overlap of interests is not a genuine justification for such actions.
  Clearly identified (unconditional) financial donations are a different matter of course!

• Seeking to make me a student of theirs or of their favourite guru, OR seeking to be an ongoing student of mine. Please look very carefully at your motivation if you're seeking any sort of ongoing contact with me, because I'd quickly pick up on any such tendency and put a stop to any correspondence. I'm an ongoing student of no-one but myself and the life experience itself, and it's part of my intent to encourage other people to be likewise — NOT to be forever ‘sheep’, following others (which direction is to do with ‘spirituality’, not genuine self-actualization).

• Criticizing, argumentative or abusive messages, including ones that are seeking to discuss the person's views with me (even if courteously and supposedly ‘reasonably’). I well know that the vast majority of people would disagree with me over all sorts of things. That's not news, and actually their opinions and beliefs are completely irrelevant to me and the working model — not belief system — that I present on this site. And because what I present is a working model soundly based on my own observations and finding out what actually has been helpful when applied in practice, there's absolutely no point in my ‘discussing’ my particular ‘angle’ with them, no matter whether they supposedly ‘disagree’ or even ‘agree’; I've already said all that I need to say on this site.
  The fact of such a message coming to me means that the particular person has problems that they need to sort out for themselves, instead of coming to me and seeking to interfere with me and my own freedom of thought. Such people would do well to read Do you want to be ‘appropriate’? …Or authentic?, and to learn to be proficient in Helpfulness Testing so that they can make healthier and more harmonious choices for themselves (including their choice of any working model of reality on which they base their life direction). Also they'd do well to read my fuller explanation about why I don't allow myself to get drawn into discussion about my supposed ‘views’.

  Indeed, even if you want to write in to tell me you ‘agree’ with things I've said or written I'm not interested, because by ‘agreeing’ you're telling me that you're just holding an opinion / belief, which, with regard to non-physical aspects of life experience, could never be factually based, and therefore is worthless. What is at least potentially useful comment is whether you've found the working model that I present, or any part of it, helpful or unhelpful in real practical terms (i.e., NOT whether you ‘think’ it would be helpful / unhelpful!).

  I've sought over and over again to emphasize on this site that what I put forward isn't ‘my views’ (i.e., opinions / beliefs), which could be agreed or disagreed with, but simply a practical working model, which is based upon actual observations plus rational thinking plus rigorous inner inquiry, plus observations of what actually happens when various aspects of the working model are actually applied in real life situations. Anyone who either ‘agrees’ or ‘disagrees’ with that working model or any aspect of it hasn't yet properly understood what I'm on about on this site, and needs to read more carefully here to get a proper understanding of the difference between having an opinion / belief and actually using a practical working model. (And yes, I do know I'm repeating myself about this, but for many people it still doesn't sink in!)

• Offers to rewrite particular pages here or indeed the whole site. While I make no claims to perfection in my writings, my observations so far have been that those who make such offers lack sufficient depth of awareness to consistently get my meaning right — and indeed appear to lack sufficient awareness to understand why particular things are written the way they are. Only a well established friend of mine, him/herself a no-soul person, would even be considered for letting loose on such a task. No ‘business propositions’!!

• Offers to assist in making videos for the site — except from certain established personal friends and long-term correspondents who appreciate my original writings in their fullness and are using my methods and benefiting from them. Please see relevant section in the Site Notes.

• Recommending to me particular books, websites, gurus, religions, spiritual paths, organisations, healing traditions / methods etc. For explanation, please read here.

• Inviting me to collaborate in promoting some other angle on self-actualization, healing, or view of ‘reality’, alongside or instead of what I present on this site. Amazing that I should have cause to put this so-obvious entry here, but people have tried that on me, apparently believing that their invitation was too good to refuse!

• Communications, however well intentioned, coming from a religious or clearly religion-based mindset, or / and referencing any supposedly ‘holy’ books (including the Bible, Q'ran, Torah, Dhammapada and so forth). These would be a total waste of time for me to engage with, and their senders are liable to get blacklisted in MailWasher so that anything further from them doesn't reach me.

• Asking me for personal favours, such as a loan to bale you out in a difficult situation. Honestly, I didn't think anyone apart from scammers would make such a request, but I've had a real case of this, which wasn't a scammer, at least in the usual sense; I gave the person very short shrift.

• People getting shirty with me because they haven't received a reply from me. Nobody has any business to require me to answer them!

• Messages that are long and unparagraphed and unpunctuated, or are in block capitals, which are thus extremely difficult to read (I give due warning about this!).

• Messages that are asking for my email address (or other contact details).

• Requests to place an ad on any of my pages. (These are treated as spam.)

• Offers to supposedly increase traffic to this site. These are treated as spam and I blacklist the senders in MailWasher, so that I don't receive further communications from them.

If you wish to email me, please use my email form via the link below. I've completely removed my email address from this site because even my displaying the address as an image eventually resulted in that address getting onto spammers' lists.

Important!
Do not proceed until you've read
and understood all the above notes!