Why 'self-realization' / 'self-actualization'?
If you understand, things are as they are.
If you do not understand, things are as they are.
If you believe that things are, or should be,
one way or another,
you have not yet understood.
Self-realization* is the primary and most fundamental subject of this website, but, unusually and for a most important reason, here it is fully linked to grounded clear-mindedness instead of airy-fairy notions of 'higher realities' or freaky 'higher' perceptions. Self-realization is indeed THE most fundamental life task** of EVERYBODY, and everybody has a potential and natural desire and motivation for it, though this is almost always to varying extents covered up or occluded and distorted. It is not imposed upon us by any external agent (such as 'God') but is implicit and intrinsic in the fact of our coming into incarnated (physical) life. As I have explained in Exit 'Spirituality' - Enter Clear-Mindedness, not only religions but ALL spiritual and metaphysical traditions and so-called spiritual paths have in their different ways, and in some cases very subtly, diverted people away from this true life task of theirs of self-realization (which is in addition to more individual-specific life tasks of theirs).
* I have belatedly chosen to refer to this generally as self-actualization. I hope that my use of this less confusing alternative term will help put across the message that my approach to 'self-realization' is a down-to-earth and practical one - not one based in some far-out 'spiritual' dogma.
I do actually feel that the term 'self-actualization' feels a bit clunky, but at least it has a more grounding feel about it than 'self-realization', so it does have a particular relevant advantage - especially in the 'mental health' field, where maximization of one's groundedness is a particularly high priority need. Its one disadvantage is that for some people it will be associated in their minds with various psychology disciplines, whose understanding of 'self-actualization' is actually (sic) not fully 'there', and tends to be associated with a lot of psychological 'intellectualization-speak' that is really nothing more than verbal flatus that seeks to impress people.
** This needs qualifying. I am distinguishing here between a life purpose and a life task. My best understanding so far is that the most fundamental life purpose of everybody is simply, to experience - and to do so in as much variety and abundance as is reasonably workable to do so, but without recourse to persistent and major pain, suffering or negativity of the sort that the garbage (aka 'dark force', 'forces of darkness') is causing for us.
This site's additional focus, then, is on clearing ourselves of the interferences of the garbage - and indeed on actually looking to find means to seriously weaken or dissolve the garbage itself. It follows on naturally from the focus on self-actualization - so that we live lives that are not only abundant in experience but are also more consistently happy and positive than they can be at the present time.
Indeed, once the garbage has been fully dissolved, as it could at least conceivably be at some stage, in new civilizations without leftover problems from the garbage the whole concept of 'self-realization' or 'self-actualization' in the high-powered sense that I mean here would no longer be particularly meaningful. People would have some degree of birth trauma and probably the odd other relatively minor traumas or stresses to clear early in their lives, but they would naturally become enlightened early in their lives, and what I am calling self-actualization methods would be used only by some people, in a more relaxed way, for some degree of enhancement of the life experience, but without any cause to go striving for phenomenally high levels of self-actualization (i.e., far beyond mere enlightenment), which are actually counter-productive for maximum vividness and abundance of experience (our fundamental life purpose - remember?).
It is because of this lack, and indeed avoidance, of genuine self-actualization, resulting from interference from the garbage, that we have hugely overpopulated this planet and look to be on the verge of reaping unthinkable consequences of this (see The Future of Humanity).
So, what, then, is self-actualization / self-realization? Is it doing a bit of Yoga or Tai Chi and perhaps some manifestation practices (e.g. to get rich quickly or to get an 'ideal' partner or your dream mobile phone) to make your life supposedly better? Or is it going off to meditate in a cave or monastery for the rest of your years?
No, it is none of those, and is much more fundamental and all-including - but it does make your life MUCH better, including almost always in all sorts of ways you had never considered as possibilities for yourself. True and full self-actualization is based on the understanding that our underlying and true nature and identity is none other than the all-pervading fundamental consciousness (or universal consciousness) itself - which is 'the Ultimate' as far as anyone can tell. It transcends all concepts of 'God', 'Spirit', supposed higher beings or supposed higher levels of reality, and so is the 'highest' reality that we can ever know of. It is not something separate from yourself that you can worship, because it is you and everything. The moment you are into even the slightest trace of worshipping, you are way off-course for self-actualization.
When you become 'enlightened' (I would prefer to say, when you gain fundamental clarity) you perceive directly this fundamental consciousness as being your true nature and identity*. However, that is only a particular, albeit fundamental and crucial, stage in your self-actualization process. Self-actualization is the process of making fully manifest in physical form your true nature as fundamental consciousness itself - so that you become a full, undistorted** manifestation of your true nature, whose basis is vibrant awareness, love, fully responsible free choice, positivity, creativity, and the tremendous egoless individual power that naturally flows from these.
* That is, in contrast with simply 'knowing' intellectually (and indeed believing) that your true nature is fundamental consciousness. A fair number of people have that sort of 'knowing' (which is not really knowing at all), but only a minute proportion of people actually have fundamental clarity and perceive their true nature directly (really the only means of 'knowing' - that is, as far as anyone can really know anything!).
** Strictly speaking, as physical incarnations we are inherently distorted manifestations of fundamental consciousness - but those inherent distortions are much more subtle than what we actually notice in the 'real world'. So, by describing an optimally self-actualized person as being an undistorted manifestation of fundamental consciousness, I am really talking in a relative sense, in which the distortions inherent in the very fact of incarnation are not classed as distortions. - Clear as mud? -- Then let us continue...
Through the self-actualization / self-realization process you do NOT lose your identity. Rather, you lose all your limiting false identities, all your 'masks' and pretences, and discover your true identity as a micro-aspect or micro-facet of fundamental consciousness itself. You thus open up what is really, and has always been, your natural state. By this means you become truly FREE. Few people know what real freedom is, because it cannot be described meaningfully - but you come to experience more and more of it as you continue your self-actualization process.
You do not find the ultimate happiness by seeking happiness, and certainly not through seeking pleasure. Instead you discover it through your self-actualization process, in which life progressively becomes its own joyful 'pleasure'.
This site, therefore, is about the true means to come into enduring and deeply meaningful happiness and freedom, which remains unsullied regardless of what life may appear to be throwing at you. In order to achieve that it is necessary to clear out all obstructions and 'negative' influences that you are carrying - including ALL beliefs and held opinions, no matter whether apparently 'positive' or 'negative', and never mind how deeply seated or ingrained.
As hard personal experience has shown me, the overriding proportion of such obstructions and 'negative' influences is a result of direct and indirect interference from the garbage, which cultivates unawareness / delusion, ego power, control, fear and negativity.
For this reason, on this site I give much information about how the garbage is interfering with ALL people, and I include accounts of my own often severe personal experiences with it (manifesting for me as 'ascended masters', 'angels', 'guides' and what people often call astral or dark entities), and how we can securely, safely and indeed joyfully clear ourselves of its interferences and become truly free and self-actualized, living abundant and vibrantly happy lives.
To this end, on this site I introduce and describe or at least point to methods to clear out old emotional issues and traumas, rigid patterns of outlook, and all manner of habitual physical distortions and other misuses of the body. You can find out effective ways of letting go of addictions and of actually resolving or healing so-called mental illness and 'personality disorders' - particularly as I show clearly from my own insights based on experiences of my own, what the real causes of these are and the ways in which the medical and mental healthcare services fail us almost completely over such issues (see, for example, My Little Brush With Psychiatry and Night Terrors and Hells - Understanding and Clearing Them).
I also show how religion and 'spirituality' as normally understood cannot properly resolve the latter issues and indeed tend to compound them, and how self-actualization / self-realization is the one overall way forward.
Do you want to be 'appropriate'? - Or authentic?
-- Actually on the homepage of my Personal website as an introduction to all my sites, that article gives a particularly important practical angle on why self-actualization is so important, and why failure to go for genuine self-actualization is to let yourself down, while letting everyone else down into the bargain.
"Are you an atheist or an agnostic, then?"
Yes! -- But also, just to confuse you, no!
Oh, how people want to categorize, to label each other - especially to try to label awkward old cusses like this one, who have clearly broken away from the ways of the 'sheep' majority!
The reality is that I am simply as I am and I think as I think and don't think as I don't think - and fundamentally base my life outlook and deeds upon what makes the best sense on an awarely and rationally loving and caring basis.
As I have indicated further above, on the basis of my own observations and awareness and reasoning ability I have rejected all views of the nature of 'reality' and our life experience that are based upon belief - and that includes all that are based upon 'received wisdoms' / 'teachings', because all that is simply more belief, and belief informs us genuinely of precisely nothing apart from particular serious problems of mental functioning displayed by the believers. You cannot be a fully positive force in your own life and the world at large if you are holding belief.
That means, for one thing, that I hold no belief in any sort of 'god' or 'divine presence'. However, I do not hold a disbelief in them, for that would be just another belief, albeit a negative one. Instead I live my life on the basis of an open-mindedly applied empirically based working model of reality and our life experience, which does exclude the existence of any conscious beings or presences of any sort external to or 'beyond' the physical 'reality'. So, for me their nonexistence is a working assumption, not a categorical belief, but it has nonetheless proved to be a crucial aspect of the working model and associated strategy and set of methods that enabled me to clear myself of some very troublesome non-physical interferences that went disturbingly near to killing me or making me an intractable 'psychiatric case' some years ago.
A really fundamental truth (if anything at all could be called 'truth') is that about anything non-physical or metaphysical, including the nature of 'reality' and our life experience, we cannot know anything. Thus even the first vestiges of belief inevitably obscure whatever is really true - what I refer to as 'What Is', whatever that is!
I do not accept the labels 'atheist' or 'agnostic', even though actually aware use of either of those terms would at least to some extent include my own outlook - especially 'agnostic'. The problem with the labels is that for the vast majority of people those labels are rigid categorizations, which imply particular belief systems and stereotyped notions - and indeed, many who regard themselves as agnostic or, especially, atheists, are locked into their own respective belief systems and so are really doing little better than those who have overtly religious or 'spiritual' belief. 'Atheist' would be sort-of applicable to me only if its definition included people who open-mindedly assume that there is no god, whether or not also including those who believe that there is no god.
"Aren't your beliefs similar to those of... [tradition, 'teacher' or writer]?"
For my response to that common question / comment, please see the relevant section in FAQ Corner, Part 2.
"What a lot of rubbish you've written!..."
Sure! Just have a look at this example and living proof of what rubbish I write.
This site saves lives. - Many of them! Not just figuratively but actually.
'The proof of the pudding is in the eating', as they say. What could be more rubbish than that?!!
"It's really cool to be normal..."
Portrait of a normal person
Why are you banging your head against that wall?
(later) ...So, you're still banging your head against that wall, then!Sorry, I don't have time to stop and think about such things. I'm too busy banging my head against this wall. -- Oh, please do me a favour and pass the Paracetamol... -- And while you're about it, please bring the television round here so that I can watch it while I'm banging my head on this wall. You do need some entertainment to make life bearable, you know...
Do you really mean that I shouldn't do what I enjoy? People should be free to do what they enjoy! That's what we're here for - to enjoy ourselves!
Portrait of a self-actualized, healthily functioning person
Why aren't you banging your head against that wall?
Oh, that! I tried it a long time ago, and it hurt and was most incredibly boring. Just look at my freedom and clarity and ease of being and all the happiness and abundance in my life now because I don't keep doing that silly thing and getting stuck in pointless ruts!
Well, in that case, at least you should take some Haloperidol to help cure you of your condition.
- Er, you're telling me that H- (expletive censored) is a self-actualization aid and brings happiness and abundance and positivity to one's life?
...And also you should use your television more, to help cure you...
What television? Where? My life is so full of wonderful things, why would I need one of those? ...Okay, if I ever have cause to get a big hole made in my head I'll consider getting a television at the same time...
(later) ...I see you're still not banging your head against that wall! Don't you ever let your hair down and enjoy yourself? You really should, you know. It's unnatural and not normal if you don't just let go and enjoy yourself a bit. ...You're nuts!
Then best not to eat me if you're sensitive to them!
Are you really so sure you want to be 'normal'?